Gemini North Node people feel a sense of urgency about getting
their point across and being “heard.” Underneath this urgency,
however, what they really want is to feel accepted. Acceptance is an
accurate barometer for them of whether of not they are “on path.”
When other people accept what they are saying, it’s a signal that
they are communicating effectively. If others don’t accept their
words, it’s a signal that they need to pull back and recast their
message in words that the others can understand.
For these folks, truths are like sacred stepping-stones—the very
foundations of their perceptions. They hesitate to share their truths
because they are afraid that others will think they’re crazy or judge
them for pondering Truth instead of thinking about making money
or other material concerns. They want to reveal themselves to
others, but their sacred Truth is so intangible that it’s difficult to talk
about directly, and the other person often loses interest. Then
Gemini North Node gets frustrated because he doesn’t know how to
communicate his philosophy in just a few words.
It’s like walking into a dentist’s office with a toothache. The
patient wants to know: Shall we fill the tooth, pull the tooth, cap the
tooth, or do a root canal? She does not want the dentist to tell her
about all his experiences in dental school. Because all the years the
dentist spent studying support his view of what should be done with
the tooth, the patient will feel the learning behind his simple, factual
opinion. Likewise, Gemini North Node people need to learn to
answer the immediate need of the other person, giving what may
seem to be a temporary or simplistic answer rather than an entire
philosophy. This is what is scheduled to work for them in the
present incarnation.
Truth is an energy, not a concept. These folks are actually seeking
the energy of Truth, but they need to remember that it is not
scheduled to come in a ponderous way. As they exchange ideas with
others in order to solve problems in their daily lives, they will get in
touch with the Truth they are looking for. When they help others
break through even a superficial problem or misunderstanding, the
energy of the Truth will come through and everyone involved will
share resolution and peace of mind. In this incarnation, Gemini
North Node people are scheduled to access the Truth through
simple, daily interactions and genuine connections with others.
Gemini North Node people have a tendency to be so concerned
with distant, overall solutions that they don’t allow themselves to
feel the joy of the moment. They are still looking for “eternal
truths.” However, in this incarnation they need to be more
concerned with “here and now” solutions and recognize that if they
(and those around them) are happy in each moment, the moments
will add up and the happiness will last.
The same is true in their business affairs. They can be so
concerned with the “larger picture” that they lose sight of how to
create an immediately successful situation. They need to be more
aware of time, budgeting their projects into specific blocks for
completion, instead of feeling that they have “forever” to handle
material concerns.
For example, I had a Gemini North Node client who owned a
duplex rental property. When one of his tenants moved out, some
minor plumbing repairs were required. Rather than handle that and
rent it out again, he decided it was a good time to do a thorough
plumbing overhaul. Then he decided it would be a good time to
shore up the foundation—which required a major expenditure of
time and money (which he didn’t have) as well as lifting the house
off its present foundation (“in order to do a thorough job”). He kept
thinking that somewhere down the line (these folks always think in
terms of eternity!) it would have to be done, so he might as well
handle it now. Since he didn’t have the resources to finish the job
immediately, the vacancy continued for month after month. When
the family on the top floor moved out, he expanded the project to
include the upstairs plumbing (“it would have to be done
eventually”). The property had been completely vacant for nine
months when he came to see me; due to lack of rental income, he
was in danger of losing it.
These folks are learning the value of temporary solutions,
handling problems when they arise and not projecting too far into
the future. Otherwise, they lose the strong foundation that provides
a base for future expansion. Life on planet Earth is temporary—
eternity only exists in consciousness. They need to shorten their
view and put their current affairs in order. They need to look at all
the salient facts of a situation—the upside and the downside—and
use their logic.
While in some areas of life Gemini North Node people are too
patient, they simultaneously try to take shortcuts in other areas. But
illogical shortcuts always result in more work in the long run
because these folks will have to go back, slow down, and do it all
over again. They rush to get everything and everyone out of their
way so they can be “free” for more important things. Often this
inner restlessness is associated with feeling lost. In fact, they do
need a purpose to give their life direction. However, it’s up to them
to define that purpose—and it has to be more than the pursuit of
Truth. They must have an individual, “in the present” purpose that
connects them to society; until they define that purpose, they will
feel lost. This is one reason these folks change jobs so frequently. If
their current occupation doesn’t satisfy their inner sense of purpose,
they have no qualms about leaving and trying something completely
new to see if it “fits.” They are willing to go through as much
formal education as it takes to prepare for the job they think might
“do it” for them.
The search for “purpose” that calls Gemini North Node people is
a carryover from past lives of seeking Truth. But in this lifetime,
their purpose is to learn the process of connecting with society. For
example, if they’re sitting at a table with four people, these folks are
great at the beginning of the conversation. But if they’re with the
same four people day after day, they become nervous. They think
they’ve already said everything they had to say. Indeed they did, but
they haven’t heard what others had to say in response—and that’s
the next step! These folks need to listen to others and learn how to
build on their responses so the relationship can grow. This kind of
sharing can generate tremendous energy that leads to new realms of
mutual discovery. When the four people at the table have new
experiences, they have new insights to share with one another.
Gemini North Node people have spent so many lifetimes
“trapped” in religious organizations concentrating on Truth, that in
this incarnation they resist limiting themselves to only one thing.
They are starved for worldly adventure: to taste life; to experience
different kinds of relationships, different occupations, and different
places. They are hungry for the benefits of living in the world.
Yet they can be envious of people who settle down to just one
job, marriage, or lifestyle. They wonder: “Wow! What would it be
like to just completely put myself into one life choice?” But their
subconscious knows that when they were dedicated to one thing life
got pretty boring, and they can’t do it! In this lifetime, they need to
have plenty of options to keep their lives interesting and to keep the
energy moving.
The potential drawback of always seeing life as an adventure is
that it can give them a superficial experience of the people they
encounter. They tend to miss out on the others’ depth—their history
and character, how they arrived at where they are now—they just
share an adventure with them and then move on. But only when
they take the time to find out about other people will they
experience the connectedness and peace of mind they are seeking.
Thus, it is to their advantage to slow down and be patient with those
around them—taking the time to ask the other person questions and
really connect.
These folks love to be spontaneous—it makes them feel light
and happy! Spontaneity works for them sometimes, but it can also
be a hindrance in more intimate relationships. For instance, they
have a tendency to try and get together with others at the last
minute, and often the people they want to see are not available. It
would be to their benefit to recognize that a lot of people live with
more planning; if they really want to get together with someone,
they need to let that person know in advance. Often they figure if
that person can’t get together with them, it wasn’t “meant to be.”
These folks prefer spontaneity over planning because they don’t
know in advance if they’re really going to want to be with a certain
person. They prefer to be free to go in any direction—wherever the
energy is and wherever their sense of adventure takes them. But
they are learning that there are times when their love of spontaneity
doesn’t work for them, such as in business matters or when dealing
with people who don’t choose to play on a spontaneous wavelength.
Gemini North Node people are somewhat restless. But from past
life training, they still have the ability to focus 100 percent on
whatever occupation they are in—even if it won’t be long term. For
them, this is healthy. They feel they can’t afford to spend this whole
lifetime on any one thing, because it’s through a variety of
experiences that they are learning how to live in the world.
However, sometimes they get “stuck” in a profession. They may
be successful and make a good living, and on one level they’re
satisfied. Yet they know the best time to make a change is when
they’re feeling really good about themselves and when everything is
going well. Since this is a lifetime of learning and growing, and of
gathering and dispersing information, they think that if they don’t
voluntarily make a change when it’s time, life will assist them in
making changes. Yet these folks don’t lack boldness. They usually
have the self-confidence, optimism, and trust in life to take the
gamble and make the change themselves.
Often the changes Gemini North Node people make are based on
intuitive knowing. They have a sense of the next adventure that they
need to experience. Although their intuition guides them, they also
need to consider the logical route to follow in making these
changes, including others’ input. Otherwise their journey can be a
lot more difficult than necessary. This is not a “do it yourself”
lifetime for them—they need input from people who have had more
experience operating in society to help them reach their goals.
These folks must be wary not to get “bogged down” somewhere
because of their tendency to be more thorough than the situation
requires. They are learning to be content with a “temporary fix”
rather than the permanent solutions they sought in past lives. In
society, everything is continually changing. The idea is to keep life
moving in a positive direction by operating in a helpful way with
other people. If there is no motion in their life, they need to lighten
up and solve their problems in logical ways that may be suggested
by those around them. That will bring back the energy!
Solitude used to bring Gemini North Node people comfort in past
lives, but they know that this is incorrect for them now. That’s why
they’re coming back to society: to bring that internal harmony they
found by themselves into their interactions with others. They’re
learning how to maintain that harmony while being in relationships
with others, to extend the harmony outside of themselves.
But they are so introverted socially that this is difficult, and
they’re trying to evolve just through their internal computer. In
other words, they aren’t asking questions of others; instead, they’re
trying to formulate some kind of continuity through the thread of
connectedness that, in past lives, they firmly established within
themselves—the thread of inner peace and harmony.
Now they have re-entered society, and they are trying to maintain
that inner peace while interconnecting with others. This is why
temporary, superficial relationships can sometimes be good for
these folks. By only going to a certain depth, they can more easily
maintain their own sense of harmony when they are with another
person. Once they learn how to do it on a superficial level with
many different people, they can learn how to get more deeply
involved and still maintain the energy and harmony.
Gemini North Node people feel they have so much information
to give to others that all the messages to be delivered seem like a
burden. Yet their lives are not operating at the same speed as their
past lives when they were traveling alone. They need to slow
themselves down. After all, this is a people lifetime.
If these folks try to take shortcuts, they will end up taking the
long way around because they will have to go back and repeat
things. They should keep in mind that right where they are is where
they’re supposed to be, and the person right in front of them might
be the one who needs to hear their message. This can greatly relieve
the pressure they feel; but if they’re going too fast in order to get to
the next person, they won’t effectively deliver the first message, and
the weight of it will still be with them.
Another problem is that Gemini North Node people feel a
responsibility not only to deliver the message but also to see that the
other person understands it. In a way, this is correct. They are
Teachers in this lifetime, and their job is to deliver the message in a
way that others can understand. But if impatience takes hold of
them, they inadvertently try to force others to receive the message
rather than slowing to present it in the other person’s own
“language.” They need to focus on the fact that twelve messages
effectively delivered to a dozen people is worth hundreds of
messages that are not understood.
More than any other nodal group, Gemini North Node people
have a tendency to stutter in their youth. This is because their minds
are traveling so fast and they’ve had so many lifetimes of silence
and meditation that they’re not used to talking. Their minds are
going ten times faster than their vocal apparatus. They’re
enthusiastic to communicate because they haven’t been in society
for so long and they’re happy to be part of it again, yet they’re
fearful because they don’t know how to relate. All that can
contribute to a tendency to stutter. Once again, slowing down to
meet another person’s “wavelength” facilitates transmitting a lot of
information in a short time with fewer words.
Stuttering can have a useful purpose in other ways. It forces these
folks to find alternative words in case their first choice doesn’t
come out right. This makes them more aware of slowing down and
accurately saying what they mean: It teaches them to respect words
and the art of using them to pinpoint exactly what they mean. By
forcing themselves to use exact words to convey their meaning,
these folks are channeling their highly creative mental energy
constructively in their relationships with others.
They have so much mental energy that if they don’t have respect
for the power of words, the result is frustration. It’s very important
for them not to blurt things out; taking the time to find the correct
words channels their energy and gives them the focus they need.
They know exactly what they want to say, but it can be difficult to
make themselves understood. These folks see others communicating
clearly, and they don’t know why they have so much trouble. In
fact, they enjoy movies with interesting, involved dialogue, since
they learn from watching what people say and how they say it.
The most important thing for these folks to remember is to “slow
down.” They need to be sure that what they say is being understood
by all concerned, point by point, rather than blurting out a series of
ideas before the first one has been accepted. For example, if they
say: “I have not had happy experiences in foreign travel,” they
should pause and see how those around them respond. If others
invalidate their statement by pointing out how much fun the Gemini
North Node should have had in Tahiti, they need to stop and clarify
what they said originally.
Perhaps they could say: “I’m not saying that foreign travel is
unpleasant for everyone, but it’s not where I, personally, have the
most fun.” No one can invalidate another’s personal experience, as
long as they make it clear that they are not saying it is the truth for
everyone. After taking the time to clarify the first point, they may
realize that they can learn from others’ different experiences. They
may ask: “What have your experiences of foreign travel been like?”
These folks are better off when they try to see how others view life
in order to expand their own perceptions.
Gemini North Node people are learning to think before they
speak. They are also learning how important it is to wait for the
proper timing to make their point. Even if Gemini North Node
offers the other person the perfect answer to a problem, it won’t do
any good if that person is not ready to receive it. And if the other
person is not receptive, these folks need to let it go until the next
opening presents itself. They should focus on rapport and goodwill,
which they can offer only if they have no personal investment in the
communication. When they are invested in the other person
accepting and acknowledging what they have to say, that investment
translates into an intensity that defeats them and may seem like
preaching or combativeness to the other person. These folks are
caring people who want to help, but sometimes their greatest caring
shows in their willingness to support the other person—even in
moments when that person does not seem to understand them.