North Node in Cancer

and North Node in the 4th House

OVERVIEW

Attributes to Develop
Work in these areas can help uncover hidden gifts and talents

Noticing and validating feelings
Empathy
Nurturing and supporting others
Building one’s own foundation and security
Honest disclosure of feelings and insecurities
Humility
Accepting others’ foibles and fluctuating moods
without judgment
Staying centered in one’s own feelings

Tendencies to Leave Behind

Working to reduce the influence of these tendencies can
help make life easier and more enjoyable

Needing to control everything and everyone
Compulsion to take charge without fully
understanding the situation
Ignoring the process; being too focused on the
goal
Feeling completely responsible for everything
Hiding feelings and fears in intimate
relationships
Doing things to gain respect or admiration from
others
Taking care of others’ feelings and neglecting
one’s own
Doing what is “socially acceptable” rather than
what is totally honest
Thinking that things have to be difficult in order
to be important

ACHILLES’ HEEL/TRAP TO AVOID/THE BOTTOM LINE

The Achilles’ heel Cancer North Node people need to be aware
of is their need for control (“If only I can make them get their lives
together, then I can relax and be vulnerable”). But the truth is that
they can never control situations—or other people—enough to feel
that it’s safe to be themselves. When they try to take charge of
situations in other people’s lives without being invited, they are
inappropriately usurping others’ responsibilities.
The trap they need to avoid is an unending search for
acknowledgment (“If only others will recognize my contribution in
a respectful way, I can begin to feel good about myself”). But it’s a
bottomless pit: Others can never give enough recognition for them
to feel satisfied. Only when they acknowledge within themselves the
importance of the contributions they make (through nurturing others
in a supportive way) will they begin to feel fulfilled.
The bottom line is that they will never have enough authority to
feel that it’s safe to be vulnerable. At some point they must take a
chance and let others know the truth of who they are and how they
feel: their insecurities, fears of rejection and abandonment, and
feelings of inadequacy. The irony is that when they risk letting
others see who they truly are, they finally gain total safety—
because in revealing their feelings they’ve taken charge of
themselves on a deeper level.

WHAT THESE PEOPLE REALLY WANT

What these people really want is to be in absolute control of
every area of their lives all the time. They have an insatiable need to
think they have the power to succeed. To attain this goal, however,
these folks must stay in touch with their feelings and insecurities
and share the truth about themselves with others.
Acknowledging their insecurities will give Cancer North Node
people a stable base from which to create success in the outer
world, for they are no longer fighting themselves by trying to hide
or suppress their feelings. This gives them a calm, inner certainty
from which to accomplish their goals. And by acknowledging their
own emotions, they will develop an awareness of other people’s
feelings. As long as they remain aware and supportive of other
people, they will gain the support they require to help them on their
own path.

TALENTS/PROFESSION

Cancer North Node people have the gift of being able to nurture
and support others; therefore, any profession that gives them the
opportunity to nourish others (physically, mentally, or emotionally)
is a joy for them. Good choices would include dealing with food
(restaurants, hotels, hospitality, etc.), house repairs, and working in
the home. They also do very well selling or investing in real estate.
However, they must use their instincts in such investments and
follow their “hunches.”
Cancer North Node people also have a solid and accurate
business sense and an excellent capacity for bargaining and shrewd
negotiating. They instinctively know how to accomplish things and
succeed in business. However, when their profession involves using
only their business acumen, they are not happy because it is too
“dry.” Their profession should make use of their business instincts
only as a backdrop to nurture others in a practical, financially viable
way

HEALING AFFIRMATIONS SPECIFIC TO CANCER NORTH NODE

“When I try to control, I lose.”
“When I share my feelings, I win.”
“I win when I acknowledge the capacity of others
to take charge of their own lives.”
“It’s okay to let my feelings show.”
“It’s okay not to manage everything all the time.”
“No one can invalidate my feelings.”