In past lives others put Aquarius North Node people on a
pedestal, and over many lifetimes they lost their awareness of how
to be part of the “human collective.” But this led to isolation and
loneliness, and now they are reestablishing identity with humankind
and gaining a sense of equality. When they focus on what they can
do to enhance others, they begin to recognize that their happiness is
not a by-product of getting their own way. Rather, it comes from the
happiness of the “collective”—be it their partner, their family
group, or the whole world.
One way these folks can break through the isolation of having
been special in past lives is to begin recognizing the specialness in
others. When they deliberately acknowledge and encourage the
unique, creative life force in others, they feel energized, equal, and
part of humankind again. They have a tremendous ability to put
another person at “center stage.” If they are ever in a situation
where they lack confidence, all they have to do is put the spotlight
on someone else. Then they will automatically feel more secure and
at ease with themselves.
Aquarius North Node people have an incredible gift for
friendship when they access it. Once they come down from their
thrones and take an interest in others, they are joyously included.
For this to happen, they need to develop a genuine curiosity about
others: their lives and struggles. These folks are so charged with the
creative energy of success that their confidence is infectious and
encourages others to rise above their problems. Then everyone
wins, because the Aquarius North Node finally feels loved and
included for who he is as a person, rather than for the role he plays.
Their innate confidence, combined with their childlike trust,
enables Aquarius North Node people to reach out freely to others,
and they make friends easily when they want to. These folks have
great friendship karma; if they relate to others from a position of
friendship first, they have their best chance at a successful
relationship—whether it be with a child, lover, spouse, parent, or
co-worker. Cultivating friendship as the basis for all their
relationships is the key for their success.
Friendship is an equal relationship in which both people
objectively consider what is best for the other, supporting the other
person in what will make him or her happy. For example, if a friend
has a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to accept a job offer 1,000
miles away, these natives will, without hesitation, encourage the
friend to accept the job regardless of the fact that they will miss the
friend.
Unselfishness in supporting the other person leads to wonderful
friendships for Aquarius North Node people. Trust is built, because
the other person sees that the native is truly thinking of what is best
for the friend, without any ulterior motive. And these folks give
great advice! Their friends are loyal because they feel the natives’
enthusiasm and good intentions.
In romantic relationships, Aquarius North Nodes’ tendency to
feel “more special” than others sometimes defeats them. They do
not usually initiate romantic situations, so it is often completely
unexpected when someone is attracted to them. But if the feeling is
mutual, their powerful passions are instantly aroused. The other
person usually makes them feel very important. They are put on a
pedestal, and past-life memories of being admired begin to stir.
If they don’t recognize that the other person needs to admire
them in order to fall in love, they lose perspective, begin to take
their own importance seriously, and inadvertently start dominating
the partner. This attitude can cause the partner to “turn off,” and the
Aquarius North Node is left with another romantic disappointment.
The lesson is to remember that romance involves admiring the
specialness in each other.
Owing to their past-life experience, Aquarius North Node
people instinctively approach a project with the idea of doing it by
themselves, their way. But when they do, not a lot of energy comes
back. They are better off uniting with peers who have similar ideals.
This is why they have such excellent friendship karma: When they
do things with others, they are filled with creative energy.
Anything they approach on their own becomes bogged down and
difficult for them in this lifetime. They want to make all the
decisions, but when others are involved, they’re forced to stay open,
so they naturally expand and become more innovative and creative.
And much to their surprise, when they do link with others it’s much
more fun (even though they don’t like sharing the control).
In choosing projects, their best bet is to follow the energy that
attracts them. Once involved, if their energy soars, they are “on
path.” They should do what they can to creatively further the
project. Every group has a need, and because their antennae are so
sensitive, these natives can see innovative solutions that will create
successful results for everyone. The more they give credit to just
“seeing ideas” rather than personally “having ideas,” the more ideas
will come to them.
If they get feedback: “Your idea is great, but it needs more
development,” perhaps it’s time to link with others to modify and
develop it. Their motive is to help, and the universe will open the
path to successful manifestation.
Sometimes Aquarius North Node people notice the talent and
creativity of others and become envious. They don’t want to admit
that someone might be “better” than they are. Yet it is only when
they access their natural generosity of spirit and stay focused from
the perspective of equality that they become open to being
successful themselves. Furthermore, it’s important for them to
generously acknowledge and appreciate others’ talents, because
their greatest individual power is expressed when uniting with
others to reach a common goal. Moreover, just as others benefit
when these folks point out ways they are special, Aquarius North
Nodes also benefit by being open to what others consider special
about them. The aspects that others value in them are the qualities
they need to accentuate, the strengths they need to build to gain the
influence they seek.
Another important factor is carefully choosing whom to work
with. They do better with like-minded people who are not
controlling and are open to new ways of doing things. Aquarius
North Node people are kids at heart—they don’t want any “adult”
telling them what to do! They need to work with people who are
generous, who respect them, and who value their ideas. When they
involve others, their creative process becomes energized and the
successes generated by the shared energy are far greater.
These folks have tremendous powers of persuasion. If their focus
is on the “greater good” and their way of getting there is indeed a
better way, they will have no problem persuading others. Indeed,
others welcome their creative, innovative ideas. When they focus—
and keep others focused—on the higher purpose that is being
served, all self-defeating limitations of ego depart. The natives
become objective and are able to access their power.
Aquarius North Node people are talented and have much to
contribute, but they seldom achieve their highest goals when they
resist sharing the credit and the glory. This is a group-oriented
lifetime. It takes a lot of people to bring in a New Age, and when
these folks unite with others to manifest new values and ideas,
success comes easily and everyone has a lot more fun!
Aquarius North Node people love being in love, but they need
to apply the same unselfishness and objectivity in their love affairs
as in their friendships. By taking the time to build a friendship
before allowing romance to fully ignite, their willingness to “be
there” for the other person comes through. This leads to trust, and
the relationship has a chance at success.
These folks require equality in every area of their lives,
especially romance and marriage. They need to meet their match:
someone who is as strong as they are so they don’t overshadow the
other person. Both partners should feel complete in their own right.
They need to make sure that their basic needs are being met through
some vehicle other than the romantic partner. Then they can be a
little more objective—not so desperate to get what they want—and
they will be more successful with their relationships.
In romance, as soon as they are given special attention it activates
past-life memories of when—to keep the attention and adulation
going—they performed and gave the audience what it wanted. Now,
in relationships, they inadvertently begin to “perform”—to be what
they think the other person wants. They can become “people
pleasers,” which causes the other person to lose interest, and once
again they experience romantic disappointment. They need to stay
in touch with their own dreams and actively pursue their goals aside
from the relationship.
Aquarius North Node people have an incredible capacity to give
love; when they channel all that love into only one person, the
receptacle isn’t big enough to contain the energy. They need
something bigger. That’s why it is crucial not to focus exclusively
on the object of their passion. If they want a romantic relationship
to work, they must consciously divert some of their intense energy
to other friendships and toward humanitarian causes.
Passion is an intense configuration of vital life energy. When
that level of energy is ignited between two people, an instinctive
desire for union and bonding arises. However, the process of
successful bonding takes time, and Aquarius North Node people
don’t want to wait. An addiction to romantic passion is a primary
area of challenge for this nodal group.
Generally, the other person begins showing romantic interest in
the native. At first, these folks don’t “get it,” but if the other person
continues to pursue them, and some physical bonding takes place,
then forget it! When passion hits (that is, a combination of physical
“chemistry” and a person who meets their romantic ideals), they
dedicate their lives to following that feeling and the person who
activates it. Because they are so desperate for romantic passion,
when it’s activated it’s like getting a summons. They want to live
life without regrets of not having experienced the high points.
Past-life feelings of loyalty and allegiance emerge, and these
folks become devoted to their romantic ideal. Suddenly these
cheerful, friendly, and emotionally self-sufficient natives become
totally influenced by the actions of the other person. If the
relationship is going well, they float through the day in a state of
bliss; but if their beloved isn’t responding, they become insecure
and depressed.
When they are apart from the beloved, Aquarius North Nodes’
imaginations go wild. They use their enormous power of creative
visualization to imagine all the possibilities of the relationship and
to idealize the other person. Throwing caution to the wind, they
immerse themselves in a blissful romantic fog. It doesn’t matter
how old they are; when passion hits they become like teenagers in
love, which can cause problems in settling down to a committed
relationship.
However, these folks usually don’t get a chance to settle down
with someone they are truly “in love” with—someone who fully
activates their passion—because once passion takes over, they lose
clarity. They may exaggerate the glory and attractiveness of the
other person, put him or her on a pedestal, and feel “lesser” in
comparison. They stop being themselves and try to “act out” the
part they feel will make the other person love them. Then they can’t
see what’s really going on, and they make foolish mistakes that
sabotage the relationship. They pour too much intensity into the
relationship too soon and inadvertently destroy it.
Sometimes they become so involved in the romance of their own
inner drama that they lose touch with the partner: They don’t hear
what the other person is trying to communicate. The partner begins
to feel that the Aquarius North Node is only interested in a love
object, and the partner loses interest in the relationship. Then these
folks’ hearts are broken and they don’t understand what happened.
They think they are giving, but how can they give when they are
not even hearing what the other person needs? The first step is to
disengage from their passions and take the time to become
interested in the other person as an individual. They need to find out
who the other person really is—his wants, problems, thoughts, and
needs. They must establish a foundation of mutual trust,
understanding, acceptance, and caring, upon which romantic
passion can thrive.
Owing to their passionate instincts, Aquarius North Node people
have a strong need to be in a relationship. But they tend to lose the
relationships in which they feel profound mutual passion and often
end up marrying people they care less deeply about. When they are
with someone they enjoy but who doesn’t arouse their passion, they
can establish the distance to be themselves and make appropriate
decisions. Their basic qualities of friendliness and support shine
through, and the other person feels safe and desires a closer union
with them.
Sometimes these relationships work out well. Having a marriage
partner that is essentially a friend gives them the independence they
need to focus their unlimited creative energy on humanitarian
projects. As mates, these people are loyal and very committed to
monogamy. However, if they are not getting the feeling of romance
they need at home, they may become vulnerable to encounters
outside marriage. Owing to their innate sense of loyalty, there’s
confusion when primary relationships become stale. But further
down the road, if they meet someone who does inspire that romantic
passion, they may throw their entire life aside to pursue it.
Aquarius North Node people are learning to accept love with
thankfulness and humility, rather than overreaction. Underneath
their need for approval, these folks carry the seed of: “I am not
worthy of being loved.” That is why they put out so much effort:
They are trying to earn the right to be loved.
However, when someone genuinely falls in love with them (for
themselves—not the “role” they are playing), at first they don’t feel
anything. Then, when they do “get it,” if they feel a reciprocal
attraction they overreact and send out signals that repel the other
person. Subconsciously they push the other person away because
they don’t feel worthy of being loved.
Often these folks act very superior when someone falls in love
with them. This is another type of overreaction. Someone wants to
share the experience of romance with them—that’s all—but they
take it as though they are really something special! Then, while they
are busy being “puffed up,” the other person loses interest, never
knowing that the native was deeply interested in return.
Aquarius North Node people need to recognize that within each
of us is love itself, worthy of being recognized. When someone is
attracted to them, it simply means that the frequency of love in that
person is recognizing the frequency of love in the native. We all
want to share the experience of love with someone with whom we
resonate. Aquarius North Nodes are discovering how to graciously
accept and flow with the experience of being loved.
Another lesson these folks are learning is the element of timing.
They see what they want and they want it right away—and end up
destroying it because they don’t allow the timing to unfold
naturally. This is especially a problem in intimate relationships.
These natives are learning that what is meant to be theirs will come
to them through its own perfect timing.
They love romance, the vitality of being totally involved in a
situation that is in the midst of being created. It feels like gambling;
but owing to their lack of objectivity, their timing is off. A
successful gambler recognizes when it is appropriate to press
forward and when to pull back.
But Aquarius North Node people think they can only move in
fast-forward! They need to recognize that it takes time and
cultivation to integrate individual energies and allow romance to
develop successfully. Time is needed for each person to influence
the other. There are times of coming together and times of pulling
back to integrate and adapt to the other: to reflect on what’s been
said and come to understand the other person’s mindset, values,
character, dreams, and goals. These natives need to see how open
they are to expanding to include the other’s values. Then they can
come together harmoniously, and the relationship will be based on
reality (the true identities of both partners) instead of fantasy. In
determining when to advance or retreat, their best bet is to be aware
of the other person’s energy. If the other person invites an advance,
they can continue without fear, but if the other’s energy is closed,
they need to rein in their will and wait for a more receptive
opportunity.
In this lifetime, these folks are learning that whenever passion
crosses their path the best bet is to pull back and let the other person
give to them. Their job now is to receive love—to allow others to
give at their own pace and in their own way. It is the natives’ job to
graciously receive love from others without trying to rush it or
change it. Their challenge in romance is to discipline their passions
long enough to establish a solid bond of friendship with those who
truly activate their heartstrings.
Aquarius North Node people have a basically happy, carefree
nature. Their willfulness and determination, which can appear to
others as arrogance and selfishness, are really a result of their naive
lack of awareness of their own equality. At birth, they automatically
started ordering everyone around—including their parents! They
assume that other people will give them what they want simply
because they want it! They are confident that they can have
anything and be anything they want. Like teenagers, they are willful
yet dependent on the approval of peers, and filled with new ideas
not accepted by the established generations.
They want immediate gratification and become desperate if they
don’t get it. Like a child in a candy store, they think if they can’t
have the candy right then, when it’s in front of them, they’ll never
be able to have it. Also like children, they think the present will last
forever. If they are in a “dry” period romantically—or not feeling
happy—they think it’s always going to be that way. They are
learning that in reality, sometimes the tide is out and sometimes it’s
in—life is changing all the time.
Aquarius North Node people need to be honest with others about
their own nature. They believe what others tell them and are deeply
hurt when “adults” (that is, all others!) break their word. They
behave in a straightforward way and don’t understand when others
treat them unkindly or play “games” with them. Their only defense
against the more sophisticated thinking of others is to honestly be
themselves. People will not be threatened if these folks reveal the
reasons behind their actions. They need to let others know what
they’re thinking, fearing, and so on. When others recognize their
simple sincerity, they will treat these natives like the vulnerable,
creative, kindhearted “children” they are.
They may make mistakes, they may be naïve, and they may be
bossy and willful, but there is a basic goodness in their nature. They
are aware of this goodness, which gives them enormous confidence.
These natives are innately generous and truly care about uplifting
those around them. They go out of their way to buy a card or gift for
a friend, or to listen with support and encouragement to others’
problems. They genuinely want to make those around them happy
and inspire them to be the best they can.
Even though this is the true heart of their nature, occasionally
they lose sight of their inherent generosity and begin to feel envious
of another person’s position. This only happens because these folks
are so naïve that they don’t stop to honestly think about what it took
for the other person to get there: They overlook the hard work,
intelligent strategy, and method that created the result. They may
tell themselves it was just “the luck of the draw”—but every good
poker player knows that victory is really determined by how you
play the game. In this lifetime, if the native feels envious about
something, it may mean that he’s supposed to have it, too. The next
step is for him to make an honest appraisal of how to bring about
those same results in his own life: to discern the proper strategy,
summon the self-discipline, and begin the hard work involved in
gaining the prize.
Their best bet is not to focus attention on whether the other
person’s circumstances are better or worse, but on what they can do
to help the other person attain a greater victory. In this way they reestablish a sense of their own equality. When they start thinking in
terms of helping others and working to bring in the New Age, lots
of magical good luck comes their way. Because they’re giving to
others, the universe gives to them.
Aquarius North Node people have had extensive past-life
experience being at center stage—knowing how the script was
written and what their lines were in the play. So they came into this
lifetime with a mental picture of how their life is supposed to unfold
—and fortunately for them, it isn’t unfolding as they expect.
Otherwise their lives would be devoid of the surprises and vital
experiences that bring out the playfulness of their childlike nature.
They are learning to release their mental picture of the way
relationships, projects, events, and the like are supposed to unfold,
and pay more attention to the opportunities that do arise.
These folks are learning to approach relationships from a position
of friendship and experience the excitement of the unknown. If they
have scripted expectations, but the other person doesn’t follow the
script, they are upset and disappointed. If they are reading their
“script” when the “love of their life” walks in, Aquarius North
Nodes may think the other person has to look or act a certain way in
order to fulfill the script. This person may in fact be exactly what
they need and want, but other aspects of the person may blind them
to this fact. These folks should not try to fit the other person into
their concept of the perfect partner. It causes them to discount who
the person is and what he or she really has to offer.
However, if they have no expectations, the other person’s unique
style of giving love may bring all sorts of happy surprises! At the
very least, Aquarius North Nodes will see the other person
objectively and know whether he wants to pursue the relationship.
There is a larger timing of events going on beyond Aquarius North
Nodes’ script. Everyone has the right to be themselves and go at
their own speed. Sometimes these folks will need to withdraw and
say: “Well, this person isn’t ready for me” and let it go, without
being angry or judging the other person as inferior. If they can
completely let go in this way, then—if the relationship is meant to
be—it will come back to them.
However, these folks are so hungry for approval that it’s hard to
let go; they may be willing to play any role necessary to win the
approval and love they want. But they won’t have a good sense of
what role to play (what is actually desired by the loved one) if they
haven’t objectively observed the other’s fantasies. Since they lack
the objective perception to play the game well, it is much better for
them not to play at all. Instead, they need to relax, go with the flow,
and tell the truth about who they are and how they feel as the
situation unfolds. Then the other person will either resonate or not,
so the romantic relationship can be based on the same honesty as a
friendship.
The irony is that Aquarius North Node people are coming from a
place of such goodness and love that when they allow others to see
their inherent innocence by releasing willfulness and revealing their
honest responses, the other person most often responds with love.