Libra North Node people are hungry for approval and want to
be included in the other person’s energy field. They feel relaxed and
happy when others “feed” them love. This is a valid need: In this
incarnation, love from others will give them the spiritual balance
they require.
The problem is the methods they use to get others’ attention and
energy. To this end they may get caught up in competition,
overachievement, and taking the initiative without consulting
others. They show off, trying to look good to attract the attention
and loving energy they so desperately need. Because they hunger
for the spotlight, when other people are talking these folks will
often say something about themselves so that the attention comes
back to them. They aren’t really tuned in to the other person—only
to their own need for love and approval. These needs can also cause
Libra North Nodes to be competitive in situations where
cooperation would work more to their advantage.
The resolution lies in shifting their focus from making
themselves look good, to making the other person feel good. When
these folks tune in and take their partners’ feelings into account,
they will know how to further joint goals in ways the partners can
accept. If Libra North Node people help those around them to be
happy, they will automatically feel the good vibrations. They don’t
have to “extract” this energy from others; acceptance, love, and
approval will automatically flow to them. It’s part of the natural
process of being sensitive and doing what they can to make others
happy. The energy these folks need is the energy they will feel when
they validate others for just being themselves.
These folks can lack confidence in relationships owing to lack
of experience in partnership and sharing in past lives. Also, they
tend to undermine their own self-confidence by focusing so much
energy on self. For example, if there’s a misunderstanding in a
relationship, rather than checking in to find out what the other
person is thinking and feeling, Libra North Nodes’ tendency is to
immediately focus on themselves—either their own hurt feelings or
what they did wrong. They never look beyond their own mindset to
determine what’s going on with the other person, and this erodes
their confidence in the relationship. They may assume that the other
person doesn’t like something about them, and they end up feeling
“unacceptable.” Or they may make a harsh judgment against their
partner, which leads them to think there are very few people they
can connect with in the world.
Libra North Node people actually have a lot of confidence, but
they aren’t in touch with it on a social level until they begin to share
it. By focusing on how they can help others feel more confident,
they feel more confidence as well. The ability to “do” relationships
is actually an incredible talent for these people, but they don’t know
they have it. They become discouraged when relationships don’t
seem to work out. What they want is not incorrect, it’s just that their
methods are “off.” The part of them that knows how to “do”
relationships is like an interior room where they have remarkable
tools for creating successful relationships—but they have to
remember to open the door!
These folks are real “people promoters.” For example, Johnny
may have just invented a device that takes all the pollution from
exhaust emissions out of the air—but he’s not doing anything with
it. Others may say: “Johnny, you should sell your invention! Think
of the money you’ll make—think how you’ll help the
environment!” But Johnny has a million excuses for procrastinating:
“Well, it’s really not good enough yet.” Then a Libra North Node
person comes along, says a few words to Johnny, and something
about the way he says it causes Johnny to put things in motion.
These folks have a tremendous ability to empower others to be
warriors—to give them the confidence and energy that send them
on their way. But they fear that others will become dependent on
them. They don’t want others to drain their energy, their ideas, or
their life force. In fact, the other person will give back to them—but
then they have the challenge of accepting the gifts that others give.
This requires humility and acknowledgment that Libra North Nodes
are not totally self-sufficient. It’s part of learning to give and to
receive—to be part of a team.
Sharing is important for Libra North Node people. They’ve had
many past lifetimes of isolation and missing the joys of having a
mate. In this lifetime, their desire to have a mate is enormous; it
needs to be honored for them to feel complete and nurtured
emotionally. An unselfish love, with no thought of personal reward,
is the key to actualizing the closeness and rapport that will fill their
hearts. They need to give simply for the sake of sharing their wealth
and bringing support and joy to their partner. Then, as the other
person gains strength, his or her happiness will in turn permeate and
satisfy the Libra North Node person.
These folks have a tremendous love of life, and in this
incarnation they are learning to expand it by including others. They
need to take the other person into account, discover the other’s
limits, and then go out and share experiences. They need to
remember that sharing experiences with that one special person is
more nurturing than reaching their own goals.
Libra North Node people are learning the art of selflessness:
putting their feelings aside for the sake of supporting someone else.
When they give to another with no thought of return, they become a
channel for giving. The universe gives more to them, because they
are actively passing on the energy. As they selflessly give to other
people, they clear the way for their partners—and for life itself—to
give back to them. There is no need to keep a ledger for “fairness”
in giving and receiving; when Libra North Node people give to
others, they are truly giving to themselves.
Owing to so many past incarnations as warriors, these folks
have developed a trait of inaccessibility. They are very selective
about the image they project, and if people see them differently,
they become upset. They try to control how people see them: “How
could they say that about me? That’s not how I see myself!” This
defensiveness makes it tough for other people to relate to them.
Libra North Node people may indulge in unexpected behavior,
because they don’t want others to be able to figure them out. It’s a
tactical maneuver. Fearing that people won’t find them interesting,
they resist being completely “known.” Also, this nodal group
regards all the other groups as the same, and they don’t want to be
like everyone else. They’re afraid that exposing their emotions and
checking in with people will make them like everyone else—and
they won’t be different and exciting anymore.
The warrior in Libra North Node people wants to have sharp
wits, independence, and no emotional ties so that it can move on at
will. In their psyches, the muscle of independence has been
overexercised in past lives and now can rear its ugly head at the
most inappropriate times and ruin relationships that might have
been nurturing.
It can be somewhat unnerving for Libra North Node people to
check in with others and support them. They are afraid that if they
give to someone they’ll start to feel responsible for that person,
which goes against their “on the road” warrior mentality.
Subconsciously, they don’t want to be tied down.
These folks need to keep in mind that this is a people lifetime.
Their best rewards will come through interdependence, not selfisolating independence. They’ve already experienced extreme
independence; to rewalk that path will only result in missing the
deep connection with others that they crave. When they do step past
their fears and support another, they create a bond with that person
and receive the appreciation and validation that they so desperately
need. In supporting someone with no motive except genuine caring,
their loneliness is healed.
When Libra North Node people support others, they
automatically empower people. So, in reality, they are not creating
dependency but are helping others achieve a higher level of selfsufficiency. However, sometimes they become resentful, thinking:
“Why aren’t other people already as independent as I am? If
everybody were like me, the world would be a fine place!” They
don’t mean to be vain, but past-life habits are strong, and the
discipline of the warrior is a mindset that is difficult to break.
These folks have been isolated from society and the peaceful
satisfaction of nurturing relationships for so many incarnations that
it’s frightening for them to even consider taking the plunge and
joining in. But it’s not that they don’t know how. Once they make
up their minds, these folks can accomplish anything. In fact, once
they get into it, they’ll find they have a talent for creating successful
relationships. But first they must make the conscious decision that
interdependence is a higher road than isolation.
Libra North Node people are tired of war; in this lifetime, they
want to experience peaceful relationships. Nonetheless, they have
intense relationships that are highly emotional, and their lack of
communication can promote that intensity. But they are ready to
move on to the next level—a place of more caring, more
interdependence, and more compassion. They need to choose peace,
hang up their shield, and participate in relationships in which they
can be vulnerable.
In this lifetime, Libra North Node people are learning patience.
There are other people on the planet, and Libra North Nodes’ lives
will unfold most happily when they take the time to include others
in their plans. Temper tantrums are a symptom of their impatience.
Often, if they don’t get their way immediately they’ll leave, when
it’s exactly the situation that would have made them most happy.
These folks have an excess of impulsive energy. In past lives,
their rashness was seen as courage that resulted in success and selfglorification—they were heroes! However, “heroism” also created a
sense of superiority and isolation from others. In this life, impulsive
tendencies lead to defeat rather than victory. When Libra North
Node people act on their impulses, they may trample other people’s
feelings in the pursuit of their own desires and seriously injure the
goodwill others have for them.
Because of their impulsiveness, Libra North Node people need to
nurture their patience and understand that a certain process of
events needs to happen for their plans to be realized. They are often
so directed and want things so intensely that the process seems
agonizingly slow. They’re running at high speed—but there’s no
war to fight anymore, and slowing themselves down and thinking
things through is necessary for true fulfillment in this lifetime.
Because of their impulsiveness, these folks, may not fully
understand why they want something. If they could be patient, they
would see the bigger picture. Then they could explain it to the other
person involved, and a lot of problems would dissolve. The other
person would be given the opportunity to cooperate and understand.
Libra North Node people are very sensitive—in an insensitive
way. They feel things very deeply themselves, but they can be
shallow when it comes to understanding other people’s feelings.
They experience hurt on a very deep level. Because of these intense
feelings, they think they have a wonderful understanding of
everyone else. But the process fails to take other people’s
idiosyncrasies into account or acknowledge that Libra North Nodes’
actions may affect another person in a negative way. This is behind
much of the misunderstanding in their relationships. Libra North
Nodes need to actively search for that deeper level in their
connections with others.
Tuning in to another person means temporarily leaving oneself.
It’s like listening to the radio: To clearly hear the music, you have to
stop humming the song in your own head. In the same way, these
folks should leave their own mindset and tune in to others’
melodies. After they “hear” the feelings and perceptions of the
other, they can determine whether they can harmonize with the
melody of that person.
These folks have to remind themselves to be aware of other
people’s needs and feelings. For example, if two friends are walking
down the street and one is burdened with packages and the other is
carrying nothing, likely the friend carrying nothing is a Libra North
Node—no one else would be so unaware of the other person.
Things that seem obvious to everyone else simply do not occur to
these people. They don’t mean to be hurtful; they are just unaware
of the damaging effects their self-preoccupation has on others. In
this life, if they want the joys of successful, happy relationships,
they must consciously cultivate selflessness and an awareness of
others’ needs and feelings.