Scorpio North Node people came into this incarnation with rigid
past-life ideas about what they have to do to feel good about
themselves—which is a very heavy burden for them.
Most babies are born naked, but not these folks! It’s as if Scorpio
North Node people were born wearing ten shirts, fourteen
sweatshirts, twelve pairs of pants, and a half-dozen overcoats. They
bring all their past-life burdens with them, and this makes walking
through life a lot more difficult than it needs to be. Their primary
challenge in this lifetime is to let go. Otherwise, too many material
possessions, unreasonable attachment to past-life values (“the way
things ought to be”), and reluctance to relate with others may cause
these folks to stagnate.
They need to be open to life’s energy and listen to others’ ideas.
When someone says: “Look—that overcoat isn’t attractive. It would
be much better to take it off and wear the one underneath,” their
first instinct is to hold on to what they’ve got. But if they listen and
discard that overcoat (the old value), they feel much lighter. If they
look at a value and their energy level starts going down, that is a
value they need to release.
For example, if these folks hold a value requiring that every
morning they get up, light a candle, and touch each corner of the
bedroom before starting their day, the ritual can bog them down.
Their past-life ideas of how things should be may keep them
“stuck.” But they are learning to recognize that these values are no
longer accurate and are actually draining their energy.
They can do two things to help themselves let go: First, they need
to reevaluate the values and ideals that are holding them back—
values regarding work, religion, relationships, self-worth, ethics,
creativity, family, goals, and so on—about what people have to do
in order to be “okay.” When they think: “I need to do this to be
okay,” if they feel a sense of heaviness around it, they know they
can release that idea and feel lighter. Second, they need to become
more interested in other people’s values. They need to truly listen to
what others think is important, since other people can offer valuable
perspectives that energize the Scorpio North Node person and
lighten his or her load.
Scorpio North Node people also benefit by helping others attain
their goals, because this process shows what the other person thinks
is important about them. In this lifetime, others often have a clearer
sense of these folks’ value than do Scorpio North Node people
themselves. This is because Scorpio North Nodes’ job is to help
others build tangible results, and others know what they need from
the Scorpio North Node person in order to do that.
As they empower other people and help them manifest their
dreams, others reciprocate by feeding these folks the energy that
lets them change and grow. They need to allow other people and
other people’s values to help them expand beyond the confines of
their limited world into the vitality of the present.
Scorpio North Node people can even become attached to spiritual
values in a way that leads to contraction rather than expansion. For
example, let’s say the native values honesty, integrity, and loyalty.
These values are always correct when practiced in the here and now.
But if Scorpio North Node people remain in a job for twenty years
when, after five years, it severely suppresses their life force, they
are not being loyal to themselves. Even their spiritual values need to
be translated into the moment. What is loyalty? Loyalty means
being true to the deepest part of oneself, and that may change as life
progresses.
It will also be useful for these folks not to become singleminded and overly focused. Once they define their goal, they need
to deliberately approach the project or task by expanding their view.
When they allow other people and other creative styles to
participate, the endeavor is more fascinating and fun. Then the
purpose becomes enjoying the close relationships of bonding with
others to reach a common goal. This helps Scorpio North Node
people put the emphasis on the people involved, rather than the
task.
If they don’t deliberately experiment with keeping their mind
expanded, they may get so locked into seeing only “one way” of
doing things that they create a compulsive energy around having
things go a certain way. They suffer more than anyone, as it leads to
immense amounts of overwork on their part.
The key is to become aware of their “tunnel vision” mode. Once
they realize what they are doing, they can stop, take a deep breath,
expand their thinking, and see that maybe getting their way isn’t so
important after all.
To gain mastery over this “tunnel vision” tendency takes a great
deal of effort on their part. It really is difficult for them to move out
of that emotional space—trying to prove that their way is right—to
a space where they can listen. It’s a new habit; but once they begin
really focusing on the other person’s motives, needs, and desires,
they have more talent than any other nodal group in combining with
the other to create more power and vitality for both.
Scorpio North Node people have had many past-life experiences
of comfort and pleasure; they are no strangers to the sensual side of
life. Actually, this past-life tendency can lead to overindulgence in
food, drink, and accumulation. Because of their instinctive
attunement to the sensual, they think that if something feels good it
will keep feeling good as long as they repeat it. But in this
incarnation, that idea doesn’t work. For these folks, repetition of
pleasure leads to the burden of accumulation—whether possessions,
pounds of flesh, work habits, or stagnation.
For example, if they like soft-shelled crabs, they can eat them
without limit. Or if it’s a good wine or bourbon, they could drink it
forever. Ultimately, the only way to rein in their senses is to
eliminate excess and recognize that the long-term consequences are
not worth the momentary joy. There’s no middle ground for these
folks—it’s a matter of totally giving up things that hold them back
and not indulging anymore. Their sensual and physical pleasures
need to be mitigated by self-discipline in order for them to attain
self-empowerment.
Sometimes it takes an external crisis to prompt them to change
excessive habits. For example, if they have a health scare involving
their heart, they may instantly switch gears to a healthy diet. Then
they are in a new rut—but one that is beneficial.
These folks derive a lot of genuine pleasure from all their
physical senses: touching, tasting, smelling—they were born with
an attunement to Mother Nature, and the physical realms yield a
great deal of nurturing for them. That’s why they often enjoy
gardening: They like working with their hands and gain satisfaction
from relating to the earth. They gain a sense of calm-’ ness and joy
when they are in touch with the energy of nature rather than their
mental pictures of how things ought to be growing. When they
become aware of what each plant needs in order to thrive, and
provide it, it teaches them the value of tuning in to an energy
outside themselves to determine individual needs.
Scorpio North Node people were hard workers in past lives:
farmers, landholders, and builders. These were lifetimes where
survival depended on their self-sufficiency—forging their own way
and building what they thought was valuable. They earned their
way through their own efforts; possessions and accumulation of
wealth were the prizes that validated their worth.
These folks were master builders. Thus, in this life they approach
everything with the mindset of a builder—slow and steady, not
skipping any steps. They have an attachment to pride in their work,
to thoroughness and doing things “their way, the hard way” to be
sure the results are exactly what they want. Although this approach
worked well in past lives, in this lifetime it bogs them down and
slows their progress to the extent that they often give up—the task
becomes too much for them.
In past lives, wealth, possessions, a full larder, and material
comfort were the goals. To concentrate on meeting their families’
material needs, they had to tune out their sensitivity to
psychological needs. They developed the habit of considering only
the task at hand.
Their sense of self-worth was based on what they did, not on who
they were as individuals. The irony is that in this life, real material
success is denied them until they link with a partner. In past lives
they built what they thought was important, but now they have to
build what is useful to society. To achieve this, they need to link
with others. They are not allowed to do it “on their own” any
longer, as that would only increase their sense of isolation,
powerlessness, and stagnation.
Although in past lives these folks did not notice the value of the
people around them, now their challenge is to recognize the
strengths and talents of others and join with them for mutual
empowerment. In this incarnation, they are scheduled to let go of
resistance to partnering and sharing resources. They are learning
how to merge their power with others, reenergizing their life and
making their path easier. They can regain their power through
supporting—and being supported by—those who have power in
their own right, and through gleaning material and spiritual benefits
from the mutual energies exchanged.
Scorpio North Node people are attached to thoroughness: “my
way, the hard way.” In this lifetime, other people are supposed to
give them fresh ideas, materials, money, and so on to help them. But
they don’t want help. Even in simple things like mowing the lawn,
they have their own way of doing it. They make life much more
difficult than it needs to be; at the time they may think “there’s no
other way,” but in the end they feel exhausted.
Although they are generally unaware of it, their extreme task
orientation can be defeating for those around them. They are
learning to delegate in a way that is empowering for others and
enlists the other person’s creativity. For example, if they are
teaching their daughter to make a cake, and they allow her to do it
her own way, it gives the child the opportunity to develop her skills,
apply her creativity, and gain confidence in her own ability.
Creativity is energy. For a person to want to put energy into
something, she must feel she’s being creative and can do it her own
way. This idea is new for Scorpio North Node people. Rather than
thinking of the child’s creativity, they would normally focus on:
“We have this job to do, to make a cake, and of course you always
follow the recipe, and of course you always use the right utensils,
etc.” Their focus is on the task rather than the person. Now they are
learning to refocus on the person and how to support him or her in
developing confidence to do the task at hand. The rewards of
shifting focus from the task to the person are enormous.
These natives have had so many lifetimes where survival was
physically difficult that in this incarnation they may feel
“comfortable” with life being one long, hard process after another
because, subconsciously, they are accustomed to it. This is not
correct, even though it feels like it is. Scorpio North Node people
need to trade “being comfortable” for the excitement and vitality of
doing things with others.
Also, these folks’ resistance to receiving help from others is
based on a feeling that they already “know it all”—so they don’t
want to listen. They insist on doing everything their way to validate
themselves through their own efforts. Unfortunately, it’s a
bottomless pit. In this incarnation, they can never sufficiently build
up their sense of self-worth—on their own—to feel good about
themselves.
Recognizing this pattern is the first step in escaping it. But when
they are going down a “tunnel” of preprogrammed actions from
past-life experiences, it can be very tough to listen to others, even
though the answers that worked in a past situation usually don’t fit
the current problem. By being open to others’ input—the way their
energy and psychology alters the situation—the native can see how
to adapt what was learned in the past to the current problem, and his
or her efforts become more effective.
Scorpio North Node people have such good and simple hearts,
others want to help them if they’ll only accept it. This takes the
humility to let others in and the willingness to release sole
ownership. The ability to do this comes through appreciating the
goodness of the other person. As they begin to value others, they
naturally open to accept the help that others offer them.
They are tired of all the hard work of past incarnations—and the
hard work in this lifetime—but they equate change with more
effort, and thus resist it. Actually, change is the key to their
revitalization, freedom, and joy! So a willingness to take risks and
go through changes—even if it means a loss of control and comfort
—is the right path.
Their lives can become hard because they’re trying to do
everything on their own and they don’t want to have to deal with
one more idea. Actually, they don’t even hear what the other person
says (they don’t want to hear it) because it feels like “one more
thing” to make their load heavier. They think people are going to
require more energy of them, but if they open to the input of others,
others feed them the energy they need. In fact, they need the
knowledge of others to get out of their ruts and be freed from their
monumental tasks.
To some extent, Scorpio North Node people have an innate
resistance to other people being “right,” which works to their
detriment. Without realizing it, they can turn away those who are
seeking to add to their energy and resources.
They have a tendency to be extremely stubborn, and they are
victimized as much by this trait as those around them. In past lives,
they had to muster absolute determination and single-minded
intention to reach their goals; through overuse, their determination
has become irrational stubbornness. Now this blocks them from
accepting the ideas that they need to revitalize their energy and free
themselves from obstructions.
Stubbornness can be a major roadblock for these folks. If
someone tells them to do something, they may deliberately not do
it; if someone says “Don’t do it!” they may do it anyway simply
because they don’t want to be told what to do. These folks are so
stubborn because they look at things as “my way versus your way,”
which turns everything into a win/lose situation. Instead, when
someone tells them to do something, their best bet is to investigate
and ask the other person: “Why are you telling me to do that? What
is your goal and your intention?” There’s an energy in stubbornness
that repels the other person. But when the native investigates:
“What are you trying to accomplish by doing it this way?” the
feelings of competition and stubbornness disappear.
Once they understand the other person’s purpose, Scorpio North
Node people are more willing to support him. By asking the other
person what his motive is and what he is trying to achieve, it opens
these folks to thinking: “Wait a minute, maybe this is something we
could do together and create a win/win situation.”
Often, when these folks get stubborn, it’s a matter of timing.
They tend to proceed slowly, step by step, thinking this is the best
way to reach their goal. Then, when other people offer suggestions
that could help them achieve their goal more quickly, they may feel
frightened of speeding up their timing. They fear going too fast,
missing a step, and losing control. Then the results may not be 100
percent “their own,” and they are so attached to ownership that the
thought of sharing it makes them insecure.
And in some ways they may be right. If they indiscriminately
trust all input from others, they take a chance that some of it may
lead them in a different direction rather than streamline their
process. So they need to attune to the motivations of others,
temporarily allowing themselves to join with the other person’s
force field to see if they feel more empowered and energized by
combining. If the answer is yes, then it behooves them to relinquish
sole ownership, blend with the other person’s timing, and join in
creating a mutually empowering partnership.
When they are going slowly, they feel reassured and comfortable
because they can see that, step by step, they will reach their goal in
a predictable manner. When people with faster timing enter the
picture, they’re afraid of speeding up lest they encounter instability
and failure. What they are overlooking is the power of the other
person.
For example, they may not want to risk missing the train from
New York to Delaware because the next train doesn’t leave until
tomorrow, even though the partner who has come along owns a
private jet! They need to consider that people with faster timing
may have talents and resources that can help them reach their goals
more quickly by a more direct route—with exciting adventures
along the way. Although they may miss the ponderous feeling of
ownership, they will gain the vitality of achieving mutual goals
much more quickly and easily, and the process itself will be far
more enjoyable.
As long as these folks think they know everything, they limit
their field of experience. This is how they get stuck in ruts. Also,
they think they know everything because they know it from their
side. They know their needs, so they think they know what’s going
to work for them and the other person, and they are surprised when
the other person doesn’t automatically agree. When they forget to
investigate things from the other person’s point of view—the
other’s values and needs—they may be shocked when their plans
are resisted. The secret is in taking the extra step of investigating
where the other person is coming from before assuming they know
how to proceed.
Scorpio North Node people do have special knowledge about
building things (a relationship, a business, etc.); they can build
things in a way that will last forever. However, they can become so
locked into making things tangible and solid that they miss the
excitement of change—of appreciating the joy and intense energy
from expanding beyond old boundaries into new dimensions that
evoke freedom, love, power, and self-confidence.
There are two kinds of security: the security of owning so many
material possessions that one is insulated from change, and the
security of having grown beyond personal limitations to gain a
sense of power. From that position, personal security is also ensured
—because regardless of what changes occur, one is secure,
confident, and powerful inside oneself. And for that to occur,
Scorpio North Node people need the expertise of others and the
personal humility to appreciate that others may be bringing them a
knowledge that could be more valuable than anything they had in
the past.