Chapter 1

THE POWER OF SURRENDER

IT IS IMPORTANT to have a clear understanding of the process of surrender because, as a student, it is the most critical skill that you can possess. It will strongly influence the level of reception you receive when you leave this world and how much peace you find in this life. For the truth of the matter is by surrendering, you must truly accept death.

If I could explain this to you in just a few words it would be terrific, but it is a very complex subject. The first thing that should be addressed is the misconceptions you already have of surrendering. When I use the word or the term surrender, you see a little white flag. You feel that you have to submit to something and see it as form of weakness. There is a huge amount of negativity you associate with it. Even in your deep subconscious mind, you still think that if you surrender, it is a sign of defeat.

In spiritual terms, to surrender is absolute. It is the defining point of your spiritual awakening. It is an act of trust, of faith, and of absolute inner beauty. Surrendering is not easy. It is one of the most difficult things for someone to do. That is because, innately in all human beings, there is a survival instinct. Unconditionally, you must be receptive to absolute trust.

You are opening yourself up to the Universe. You are surrendering to the very Source, to God or the Universe that has created everything.

Many people think they have surrendered but they do not have the breakthroughs they have been searching for. That is due to their survival instinct or their resilient will to live. In terms of absolute surrender, death plays a very important role. It means that you must release all of your attachments of holding on to your existence. It is something that happens

internally, and you have to just let go. It’s time to leave this world now.

You’re done! You’re through!

Your sense of survival is one of the many challenges you face when surrendering. It is your perceived sense of immortality, your desire to live forever. You have a strong connection to your physical body, your being, your is-ness of who you think you are. Even if you say, “I know that I’m more than my physical body,” you have little faith in this belief. It’s very difficult to acknowledge your spiritual body over your organic body. You may say to yourself, “I am perfectly okay with leaving the physical body. I am ready to do that. I accept it.” But that is not the truth. If you internalize and reflect on this, you will realize that you are not ready at all. You are afraid of death just like everybody else. You are afraid of that immortal transition.

There are people who are successful in surrendering. For example, a person who decides they are tired of their illness and is ready to move on.

Or an elderly person who has body aches and is riddled with health issues.

They have come to terms with leaving this world. There is a sense of calmness about them and they have made peace with themselves. They’re not worried anymore about bills, relationships or material possessions.

They possess a certain resolve that creates a sense of peace within them.

This can only be done when you truly accept the fact that you’re going to move on soon. The problem is that you want to be able to achieve true — I do use the word true — surrender. If you can do that, if you can achieve and experience surrendering, you will realize for the first time how trivial life’s demands really are.

While watching a program on TV a while ago, there was a discussion about the differences between happy people and unhappy people. It seems there is a significant difference between the two. Those who smile more and have a better outlook on life put a positive slant on things that often go wrong. It is statistically proven that positive people have longer lasting relationships, more prosperity, and generally better health conditions than negative people do. Statistically speaking, it is not even a two, ten or even twenty percent difference; it’s much larger figures.

Someone with pessimistic views of life demonstrates a poor sense of security in relationships, financially, and personally. However, someone who can grasp the true concept of surrender, no matter what their

personality is like, can take a negative situation and turn it into a positive situation. Their idea of life is, “It’ll all work out in the end. Everything is alright.” They internalize their beliefs and feel it emotionally. A positive attitude gives you a much better understanding and acceptance of surrender.

When you learn to surrender, life becomes brighter, more beautiful.

Everything you experience is like your first kiss or a hug from a loved one.

It is the first real sunrise you stopped to watch so you could savor its beauty. It is even better than that. Surrendering liberates you from the collective consciousness that holds you in place, the Doe. You look at your bills and you think, “Well, they are still here. They’re going to be here, but I am dealing with them.” You find a way to let go of that constant pressure.

You let go of people who hold on to you for their own benefit. You let go of the things that are holding you back, preventing you from finding the completion you are searching so desperately to find within your inner self.

The irony is that you reject the idea of surrendering. Again, I say the main reason you do that is because you feel that if you surrender, it will be like giving up your life. That is what really prevents you from experiencing absolute surrender. So through that understanding and observation, you should now begin to reflect on peeling away those barriers. Meditating is very close to that same concept. It gives you incredible tools that help you to surrender. Some people think that they can just surrender without reflecting. Then why haven’t they done this in the past? Believe me; you will know when somebody has surrendered. You cannot help but feel their absolute presence when they do. It is profound.

Is surrender a specific act like meditation or is it a state of mind?

Surrendering can start off as a process or a mechanism. There are limitations when performing the act. You can only set up the premise of what you are about to do. My suggestion is to be by yourself in a room.

Make sure you are not disturbed. This isn’t like preparing to do a meditation. It is a more reverent, humble state of mind, much like a Muslim may prepare to bow and praise Allah. You want to prepare to bow and release yourself to the Universe. Clear your mind, clear your emotions

and start repeating, “I forgive all of my past intentions.” Then reflect on what those intentions are because they were internalized. Ask yourself,

“Am I cruel to other people? Am I cruel to myself? Am I too consumed with money? Have I done enough for others? Could I have done more?”

Bow to the Source. Clear your mind, clear your emotions and start repeating, “I forgive all of my past intentions.”

Release those internalized thoughts. Give yourself permission to release those types of things. God is not going to judge you in spite of your religious beliefs that try to convince you otherwise. You do not need to pay your fee to gain entrance into the pearly gates. You do not need to confess to a priest about your transgressions. Forget it. The end result is, “Are you

able to forgive yourself? Can you forgive yourself?” I don’t think anybody can forgive you until you can forgive yourself first. That is the only way you can freely express compassion for the mistakes you have made to yourself and to others. Apart from that, you are just making surface statements to express the pain that you carry around with you. You might be able to show that pain to someone else if you’ve done wrong to them,

but it doesn’t mean that you have purged yourself from that negative vibration.

Give yourself permission to surrender, even if it is only temporary permission. Now that may sound odd, but sometimes that is all you need to do to experience what you need to understand so you can release and forgive yourself for your own crimes. You have to be compassionate to yourself as a growing being.

You cannot forgive yourself unless you truly recognize and internalize the errors you have made. You have to acknowledge them. You cannot just say, “I forgive myself.” This is the tricky part: you have to truthfully internalize the fact that you would never do that act again. You have to realize this truth both mentally and emotionally.

You have to understand your errors and give yourself permission to be forgiven. Now that may sound self-righteous, but I don’t think another person can say to you, “You can forgive yourself now.” You have to be the one who gives that forgiveness to yourself. That is what peels away the layers I am referring to and it has to be done unconditionally. You cannot just think you will forgive yourself today or next week, becoming arrogant or self-righteous because now you are free from those issues. That will not get you anywhere. The mind is so complicated. I have often said that you cannot perceive the higher vibrations if you know your own sin, your own errors, your own negativity. Your tonal is irrefutably acknowledged. There is a way to purge that through self-reflection and by internalizing and forgiving yourself. You may not be successful the first few times, but you have to at least try.

There is a part of you that wants to ask God for forgiveness. This is what we have been taught in this dimensional world. This is what the teachers of various religions have taught us. They say that you can only seek forgiveness through God and that you have to do this through religion.

They teach you that you can ask God on your own terms to be forgiven, but only God can forgive you. We all want to be forgiven. There is a part of us that lies deep within our consciousness that feels we have never been completely forgiven for our “sins.” God gives you the choice to forgive yourself. It ultimately knows you will hold yourself responsible until you have truly come to terms with the issues you are holding inside of yourself.

God is not going to say, “Okay, you’re forgiven; you can come through the pearly gates now.”

You want acknowledgment because, through parental conditioning, you learned to receive forgiveness that way. You are punished for your misdeeds and acknowledged when forgiven by removing the terms of your punishment. “Okay, you can go do that now because you’re off curfew.”

This is social reasoning. This is how we think as human beings. It is integrated into your thoughts, but you never think about just forgiving yourself. You know you did something wrong and you did your penance —

move on!

When you begin the process of surrendering, the first thing you need to do is forgive yourself. And then you have to remember that just because you forgave yourself, it does not mean that the other person has forgiven you. Part of surrendering is to make sure that you have opened your heart wide enough to share that information with someone else, if they’re willing to accept it. You want to heal them and repair the mistakes you have made by making it right for them.

You’ve worked on yourself, so now it is time for you to see if you can make it right for the other person. If you cannot, do not punish yourself forever. You cannot expect someone else to give you that release, nor can you expect to give this release to someone else. You need to forgive those things because they’re all like cords. There could be hundreds of cords with each one tied to you. Imagine someone holding the other end of that cord that is tied to you. Don’t forget that you also have cords that are tied to other people that you are holding onto. This is holding your identity, your consciousness, who you think you are in this way, in this place.

One of the most powerful elements of the Doe has no name. It has variations of names, but none of them accurately describe what it is. If you don’t know exactly what it is, you will never know how to truly surrender.

You should take time to surrender either once a week or once a month; however long it takes. You cannot unrealistically expect to be purged all at once and think that you are now ready for full surrender. If that is how you are approaching surrender, forget it. Give it up right now. It will not work because that is not true surrender. That is ego surrendering. Real surrender starts with the smaller things that eventually lead up to the bigger things.

You have to decide where you want to begin. You may want to review it

mentally in your mind and forgive it. Then say, “I’m going to let this go now.”

Sometimes your ego and your inner mind say, “Well, if I let it go, what’s going to prevent them from hurting me again? I am opening myself up and making myself vulnerable. They will take advantage of me.” No one is telling you to be naïve. Nobody is saying that you should be stupid or foolish. There is an old adage, “Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.” Just because you forgave someone does not mean that you forgot what they did to you. You can forgive someone and also be smart enough to know that you need to move on. You are going to surrender that situation away. Maybe it’s time for you to let go of that person, if they are consistently hurting you.

You have to forgive yourself so you can let that person go. It is just your guilty feelings that are holding you back and allowing the damage to be done to you. You are not forgiving yourself enough or being considerate enough to let go of this person. It is also your ego that is holding you back.

It takes a lot of contemplation to realize this. It takes a lot of deep soul searching. Again, do not expect to do everything in one session. It takes time for true surrender.

When you are ready to release those inner issues, you should kneel down and make it a sacred ceremony. This is ceremonial; you’re about to do something that is very challenging and difficult. You are accepting your perceived identity from the brain, that part of you that recognizes your personality in this life. You are beginning the process of pulling out the thorns that have created wounds in your psyche. You have accepted these thorns as part of your wounds that will stay with you for the rest of your life. Instead of carrying the burden any further, dress those wounds one at a time. Think about that. You are patching and repairing all the damage you have previously accepted as a part of who you are. You are remolding your psyche for a new world perception, and your perception of other people.

So, now we are back again having a pessimistic or an optimistic view of life, and the benefits of both. Optimistic people are more apt to allow those thorns to be removed. Because they are willing to do that, they are able to let the light of life, Prana, the Universe come into them. That act requires a more positive outlook on life. You can have that too. You just have to choose to act on it.