Scorpio North Node people are learning to let go of old patterns.To do this, they need a partner—or partners—with whom to build arelationship and empower one another. Often these folks are fine ingroup situations but are fearful of one-on-one connections, becausethey have not asked themselves: “What does the other person need?What would support him? What would empower him?” When theytake the focus off themselves and truly tune in to what the otherperson needs, it establishes a feeling of rapport.To do this, they must overcome the fear that they won’t be likedor that people will be angry with them. In fact, these responses fromothers only happen when Scorpio North Nodes are not exercisingtheir innate talents for mutual empowerment. If their motive is tosupport the other person regardless of the response, they won’t gethurt. In the process of sincerely exploring what will work for theother person, these natives open up—and that’s when they connectwith the reciprocal, rejuvenating energy they need.Scorpio North Node people may come across as nice, humble,salt-of-the-earth individuals, but true modesty involves beingreceptive to the input of others and does not seek to dominate thesituation. Underneath, these natives have an arrogance andstubbornness—an ego encrustation from past incarnations—thatneeds to be released. They are learning to relax their tight grip oncontrolling outcomes and let go of the rigid past-life values thatoppress them.Scorpio North Node people need the validation of others, as thisis what allows them to open and change. The energy of other peoplerecognizing and valuing their worth is nurturing for them and is anaccurate barometer of whether they are on the right path. This isanother reason why they work so hard—they think if they follow ahard work ethic, others will notice and value them. So they put outtremendous time and effort to reach a goal, yet others don’t givethem the positive feedback they’re looking for. The problem is theirmethod for gaining validation. If they try to get it by being passiveso as not to displease others, they start boiling inside; and it’s notempowering for either person. The task itself can’t give back energyto them; and if they do it their way, without integrating the needsand contributions of the others, they won’t get the validation theyseek. The resolution involves taking time to ask: “What does thisperson need? What is important to him in this situation?” If theytake the other person into account, when they make theircontribution they will be appreciated.In this lifetime, Scorpio North Node people do not have to be“right” or prove that their way of doing things is best. They’vealready done that. A higher value involves learning how to combinewith others to build a greater success than either person could haveaccomplished alone. This requires being receptive to others’ ideasand truly supporting the others’ spirit. Scorpio North Nodes must becareful not to superimpose their values on the other person, but todo what they can to enhance and help that person’s values to workmore powerfully. This will create the synergy these folks need forcompletion.
Scorpio North Node people think they have a solid sense oftheir own self-worth—and in some ways they do—but at times theyexaggerate their worth and at other times they undervaluethemselves. Because they are accustomed to doing things on theirown, they seem very independent. They are confident in that theyknow they can rely on themselves to pull through any situation.They are aware of their talents, abilities, and willingness to workhard, and they value their own resourcefulness.The problem is that they only value themselves from their ownperspective and tend to underestimate their value to others. This isone reason why they may have money problems. They inadvertentlylimit themselves because, by the other person’s standards, they areoften worth a lot more than they realize. Thus, it behooves them totake the time to learn what the other person values about them, andthen to strengthen those qualities.Underneath, Scorpio North Node people have deep feelings ofunworthiness. However, these feelings only surface when ScorpioNorth Nodes begin comparing themselves to others (in terms oftalent, beauty, money, ability, popularity, etc.). Whenever theycompare themselves to others, they feel inadequate. However, whenthey focus on the gifts and talents that others have, enhancing thosegifts by making others aware of their abilities, suddenly these folksbecome aware of their own value. In the process of helping othersto manifest their dreams in practical ways, they shine. They knowthey’ve played a part in making the other person successful; and ifthe other person’s values are similar to their own, then what theyconsider important also becomes actualized.But these natives need to guard against being so focused on thetask that the people become secondary. They may not even realizethat is the message they are projecting. Their self-worth is largelybased on what they do, not who they are; so to feel good aboutthemselves, they think they have to constantly prove their abilities.In this lifetime they are readjusting their definition of self-worth—learning that it has to do with who they are as a person, the qualitiesthey possess, and how they relate to other people.
In this incarnation, Scorpio North Node people are destined formajor changes. Only through complete transformation can theyescape the ruts they so easily fall into and regain the vitality andsense of aliveness they desire. For them, transformation has to dowith other people: getting in touch with what others considerimportant and pursuing new directions that trigger excitement.These folks need highly creative energy to rouse them out of theircomfortable routines. Crisis situations stimulate them in a positiveway to disengage from the steady, reliable pace that has becomeoppressive. They change, grow, and gain excitement in their liveswhen they’re rising to the occasion and taking risks that requirereaching into the unknown. This type of creative stimulation and“living on the edge” needs to be expressed on a regular basis if theyare to enjoy life.Scorpio North Node people were once master builders. However,in this incarnation, in order to build they first must clear the groundfor fresh, new structures. They can’t expect to build one skyscraperon top of another. It’s time to let go of everything that oppressesthem: the past, excessive material possessions, anything that hasoutlived its usefulness in the present.But these folks are afraid to let go of things lest they’ll forget thepast. And the fact is, they will. That’s good; that’s part oftransformation. When misunderstandings are transformed, theydissolve—much as the caterpillar turns into the butterfly. Whyshould the butterfly look back to its caterpillar days? It needs to flyaway and enjoy its newfound beauty and freedom! Likewise,Scorpio North Node people need to let go of the past in order tobetter enjoy what they have become.
It’s important for Scorpio North Node people to discriminate intheir risk taking. There is a difference between taking inappropriaterisks that bring a sense of carelessness and appropriate risks thatbring a sense of growth. If Scorpio North Nodes are in doubt, theirbest bet is to ask others to appraise the situation.For example, I had a client with this nodal position who found ahouse she fell in love with. Everything about it was right, but onsome level she didn’t feel comfortable with it. So she asked herfather-in-law for his opinion, and he said he didn’t like it because ofthe woods in back of the house. It made him nervous, as she hadtwo small children and spent a lot of time at home. So she drove byagain on her own and let the energy of the house impact her, andshe didn’t get a happy feeling. Then she investigated the schools inthe area and heard things about the curriculum that made heruncomfortable. As she investigated, the feedback she got did notstimulate a sense of vitality for her, but rather a sense of fear.However, since her desire for accumulation was strong, she had anengineering report done. It indicated structural problems with thehouse. So she finally let others’ input help her make her decision,and in spite of her desire for ownership she did not take the risk.This is a perfect example of how these folks can combine theirhighly attuned sense of “comfort” in a constructive way with inputfrom the outside.But there’s a difference between comfort on a psychic level andcomfort on a physical level. When these natives make choices basedon what’s physically comfortable (that is, what is easy andpredictable), it is usually not the road that will stimulate change andmake them happy. When they link up with a person or projectoutside themselves and they feel psychically happy and energetic,that is a signal they can trust. In pursuing that, happiness awaitsthem.
In this incarnation, Scorpio North Node people have strongspiritual needs that must be honored: quiet, relaxing time forreflection, creativity, and renewal. They are so tired from the hardwork of past incarnations that in this lifetime they need to rest. Theproblem is, they are not accustomed to resting! They are so used tobeing responsible for keeping their material world in order that theyare still preoccupied with survival.These folks need to recognize that in this incarnation, theirspiritual and psychological needs are as important as their physicalneeds. In fact, their spiritual needs are more important. They’vealready mastered the material realm; now it’s time to explore thespiritual realm, involving themselves in experiences that promotepersonal transformation: psychology, consciousness-expandingseminars, or self-help classes. They need to be involved in pursuitsthat will free them from the bondage of the material realm.As long as they base their sense of self-worth on materialoutcomes, they depend on the external world to maintain their senseof well-being. This leaves them with a deep feeling ofpowerlessness, as it is impossible to prevent change—change is theone absolute that underlies all material existence. A primary lessonfor Scorpio North Node people is to embrace change, becausetrying to hold on to anything material is hopeless: Everythingmaterial is born, matures, disintegrates, and dies.But spirit never dies, and these natives are learning to alignthemselves with the spiritual side of life. Rather than saying: “Iwant things to go my way,” they are discovering the spiritual powerof saying: “I want it to be exactly the way it is.” And then they win—they see what actions to take and their lives become magical!They are learning to attach themselves to universal energy and trustthe natural unfolding of life.Scorpio North Node people are finding out that “When one doorcloses, another door opens.” As they allow things to pass out oftheir lives without the emotional attachment that is so draining, theygain an independence, strength, and freedom they have never beforeexperienced. Their load is lightened enormously, and they canexperience life without being “sucked in” by changing materialcircumstances. When they align themselves with spirit and takechances that are in alignment with the universal plan, they are “onpath.”In the material realm their needs are endless, and they neveraccumulate enough or do enough to feel complete. The only thingthat will give these folks the feeling of satisfaction they seek is thespiritual realm. So the key is to stop making more materialcommitments and begin making commitments that will increasetheir spiritual awareness. If they can pursue spiritual matters in thecompany of other people, the participation of others will give themthe energy they need to change.