Scorpio North Node people think they already know everything,so they’re not open to others giving them insights that would maketheir path easier. This means they are constantly missingopportunities to break free from their limitations.Sometimes these folks are “stuck” because of underlying feelingsof inadequacy. For example, I had a Scorpio North Node client whobecame a voice teacher. At first she had many clients; she was wellqualified by education and experience. However, after a time herclients began dropping away and no one would tell her why. In fact,people were coming to her to improve their singing—but she wasgiving them weeks of breathing exercises to expand their capacityto sing. She wasn’t giving them what they wanted, and she had allkinds of justifications for it. But underneath, she felt inadequate inher ability to play the piano and feared she wouldn’t be able to playthe pieces her students brought to sing. Once she voiced herconcerns, others provided many ideas. She ultimately hired a musicstudent to accompany her clients while she concentrated on theirsinging.When these folks finally acknowledge their feelings ofinadequacy, others are able to help; but when they think they knoweverything, they’re not open to learning and may stay trapped.When others approach them with new ideas that conflict with one oftheir values, even if they are excited about the input, they tend tosquelch it immediately. This is one of their greatest errors.Eventually others cease to offer suggestions that could resolve theproblems because they know these folks aren’t receptive.The resolutions they will accept for their problems can be solimited that their obstacles become unresolvable. For example, theymay want to sell their car, but they feel attached to it so theyestablish unreasonable conditions for the sale: The buyer must haveblond hair, at least two years of college, and be a nonsmoker.Naturally they’re never going to sell the car!Scorpio North Node people can be “stuck” in these problematicsituations far longer than those in other nodal groups. To break free,they need to hear an entirely different view based on a value systemdifferent from their own. Then they can bounce their concerns offthe other person: “What about my attachment to the car? What if thecar becomes abused?” After they hear how the other person wouldresolve those concerns according to the other’s value system, theycan rethink their position. Sometimes it’s easier for them to take theadvice of a stranger than to listen to their partner. They may haveprejudged their partner and discount his or her input, yet usually itis the people closest to them who can give the most accuratefeedback and best recognize their strengths. So it behooves them toreally listen to those who know them best, and allow themselves tobe influenced if they feel truth and energy in what they hear.When they think they already know everything, theirrelationships revolve around filling their basic, physical needs. Butonce those needs are filled, they still feel flat and lifeless. They needto go beyond their own physical needs to experience vitality,empowerment, personal growth, and transformation. That is thehappiness they seek, and nothing less will satisfy them.
Scorpio North Node people have an inner fear that others’ ideasmay be right and they themselves may have to change. There isalways fear and/or excitement that accompanies great change; it’snatural. And on the deepest level, these folks want change. Theywant to cast off the oppressive burdens that make their lives sodifficult; they know they need to be open to the flow of suggestionsand knowledge from others. They are learning to see other peoplenot as invaders but as rescuing helpers.Once they decide to be open, the issue becomes one ofdiscrimination. Their success often depends on a careful choice ofwhom they partner with. Not everyone is a “rescuing helper,” sothey need to discriminate regarding whom to allow to deeply affectand change them. The key is to tune in to the other person’s energyfield. If they tune in to the motives of the other person and feeldegraded, that person probably has harmful intentions toward themor is appeasing them for personal gain.The right partner will spark new ideas that stimulate their ownenergy, creativity, and excitement. There are people with whomthey connect very powerfully; when they become energized about acertain person, they are finally willing to relinquish outmodedvalues. Now they are dealing with a force that is more powerfulthan their values, and when they follow it, the relationship works.(If finances are involved, they can be motivated to take the risk byreminding themselves that they will make more money when theyteam up with the financial energy of another.)
Scorpio North Node people are destined to experience a totalbonding with another on a one-to-one basis. The problem is thatalthough bonding is what they most long for, at the same time theyare terrified of it. They fear that if they let go of what they know,there will be nothing for them to hold on to. The irony is that whenthey begin experimenting with new ideas, they feel less need forcontrol because the excitement is so satisfying.These natives have an amazing capacity for bonding, owing totheir ability to make others feel understood. When they listendeeply and understand the other person, their attentive listeningmakes the other feel loved and accepted. Their talent for listeningalso allows them to connect with the psychic energy of another andto bond with that person if they choose. It is this deep bonding withothers that is their passport to renewal and release from stagnation.
Scorpio North Node people have the ability to “tune in” to thehidden thoughts of others. When they stand near someone, if theyopen up to receive that person’s energy they will know his or hercharacter and motives. When they misjudge someone’s character,it’s because they are projecting their own values on the otherperson. When they do this, they can be fooled. However, they arenever fooled when they genuinely “tune in” and trust what theysense about the other person.When these folks feel the inner turmoil of others, they want tohelp—but they don’t know how without feedback. When someonethey care about is upset and feeling helpless, their best response is:“What can I do to support you?” The other person may respondwith something that sounds like total idiocy: “I need you to call meat 9:00 A.M. every morning and remind me to get up and make mybed.” Yet by supporting the other person in exactly that way theyempower the other, who will subsequently validate their worth. Thiswill create success in their relationships.If problems arise, it’s because Scorpio North Nodes want to “fix”the other person—their way! They have many ideas about how toalleviate the other’s pain and better the situation. They project whatthey would do in the situation and neglect taking the other person’sneeds into account. Instead, they must be receptive to what the otherperson is telling them.However, this doesn’t mean that Scorpio North Node people mustsacrifice themselves. If the other person says he needs to getmarried in order to feel secure in the relationship, it doesn’t meanthe Scorpio North Node should marry him if it’s not something shewants to do. Rather than try to talk the person out of feeling a needfor marriage, or tell him what he ought to do to successfully pursuemarriage, her best bet is to directly ask him what he needs forsupport: “Look, I can feel your turmoil and I want to help. I wouldlike to continue with our relationship, but I don’t want to getmarried at this point in my life. So how can I best support you? Doyou want me to encourage you to find someone else who is readyfor marriage, or do you want me to support you in getting past thefears that you think will be resolved through marriage?”Scorpio North Node people need to let the other person tell themwhat will ease his or her inner conflict and answer his or her needs.They will know if they are “on track” by the other person’sresponse: Others will enthusiastically validate their support when ithas really been helpful.
When Scorpio North Node people feel anxious, they may bereluctant to reveal their true feelings. They don’t want to get into aconflict, so they bury their emotions and communication stops.Instead, they are learning to move past the block by discussing itwith the other person. They need to get beyond their assumptionsabout the other person by risking a confrontation—by being willingto be uncomfortable for the sake of forming a closer bond throughhonest communication. If their motive is to gain moreunderstanding of the other’s values and needs, it can be veryproductive. This is how to build a relationship with the otherperson, rather than trying to do the whole thing on their own.When these folks feel anxious because they don’t know how torelate, it’s a signal from the universe saying: “You need to gofurther into the person’s psyche.” Habitually, when Scorpio NorthNode people feel that fear, they pull back, which is the opposite ofwhat will work. They need to investigate at a deeper level tounderstand the other person’s desires, motives, and values. That willresolve their anxiety.For example, when someone counters what they’re saying, theyautomatically feel a need to defend their point of view. At thatmoment, if they deliberately turn it around and investigate the otherperson’s perspective, simply changing the focus takes the pressureoff. They could say: “Look—I’m not sure I understand whereyou’re coming from. I’d like to know more about what you’rethinking.” Their automatic response is always on themselves, butthey need to refocus on the other person.
For Scorpio North Node people, this is a partnership lifetime.Whether a spouse and/or a business partner, they need a partner tofeed them the energy that keeps them stimulated and free fromstagnation. This is a soul mate lifetime, so life will bring themopportunity after opportunity to experience a soul mate relationship.A soul mate relationship is really a combining—on an energeticlevel—with someone with whom they have the right “chemistry”;who gives them a sense of excitement. As they empower theirpartner, the partner responds by validating and taking care of them.The mutual energy revitalizes those parts of the Scorpio North Nodeperson that became stagnant during past incarnations.Soul mate relationships are not limited to sexual relationships. Iftwo people share a common goal—such as writing a book, runninga restaurant, starting a business—it can be a soul mate relationship.Both people become one on an energetic or psychic level to morepowerfully produce their project. Each person has to be willing tolet go of personal issues to allow both partners’ energies tointegrate. These folks need to be willing to understand the otherperson, what he or she is offering, and what his or her resources arein order to combine and achieve maximum mutual gain. That iswhere they shine!It’s the same principle in romantic/personal relationships. IfScorpio North Node people focus on “my values versus yourvalues,” they will lose. On the other hand, if they are clear about thehigher goal they want to experience with the other person, and that’sagreed on, then these folks are willing to adjust their methodologyto work with the other person and gain the experience.This could be as basic as deciding the kind of relationship theywant to create, and then supporting each other in reaching the ideal.When couples are younger, they may have the goal of raisingchildren. Later it might be the goal of living together according tocertain spiritual ideals, growing together through self-help ortransformational experiences, supporting each other in reachingshared health goals, and so on.The best approach to creating personal relationships is to get toknow the other person and see if that person’s values, desires, andmotives are compatible. Having shared values is very important,and Scorpio North Nodes may be fooled. If there’s too muchinstinctive projection of their own values, they won’t get anaccurate picture. But if they are really open to the other person’ssharing, they will be able to feel if they are energized by the otherperson’s values. These may be values that Scorpio North Nodeshave not even thought of—the next step on their path!Owing to past lives of being very attuned to the physical senses,Scorpio North Node people are generally quite interested in sex andphysical demonstrations of affection. They are aware of their bodiesand know how to enjoy them. However, they can be so aware ofsensual enjoyment that they miss the transformation that is possiblethrough sexual interaction on an energy level.If they tune in to the psychic energies of their partner (that is,consciously appreciate the resources and energy of the otherperson), then, when they combine sexually, the experience farexceeds anything they could have imagined. Scorpio North Nodepeople have latent talents in this regard, as soon as they becomeaware of the value of psychic/spiritual attunement and bonding incombination with the physical. Through their openness to theirpartner’s energies they can share an enjoyment beyond sensualpleasure, expanding into the dimension of spiritual alchemy andempowerment.