Before Aquarius North Node people can gain the selfconfidence needed to successfully pursue their goals, the hindrance
of excessive personal ego must be discarded. The ego has been so
built up that in this incarnation they practically have to starve it to
regain inner balance. Their hunger for prestige can be a bottomless
pit, causing them to live beyond their means, adopt a superior
attitude, and always want “more, more, more.” Others are allowed
to enhance and expand the ego, but Aquarius North Nodes are not.
Their desire for acclaim can too easily become an ego trip with an
arrogant attitude that summons disaster. So the universe often keeps
success from them until they learn to respond in a balanced and
gracious way.
Life gives them lots of chances. Because they are inherently
confident, energetic, and willing to take risks, their spirit of
enterprise rightfully puts them in a position to be victorious. And
then life watches to see how they handle each success: If they
become pompous, life removes some of the spoils. However, if they
handle small victories graciously, life brings an abundance of what
they seek—as long as they avoid pride and arrogance and continue
to receive with thankful humility.
Aquarius North Node people have a mechanism in the psyche
that reflects on self-glory and inflates the ego—then the power goes
out of their lives and they attract defeat. Whenever they notice the
mechanism activating, their best bet is to immediately disengage it.
They must stop thinking how glorious they are and consciously
remind themselves: “Okay, I don’t know if I’m going to win or lose,
but I think maybe I could help others have a positive experience.”
This will allow them to re-establish a balanced perspective.
Another approach to circumvent the problem of overdeveloped
ego is to deliberately use the ego to benefit other people or
humanitarian causes. These people were royalty in past lives; now,
by focusing on benefiting “the people” instead of enhancing their
own reflection, they will win.
Aquarius North Node people have vivid imaginations and often
entertain themselves with fantasies of grandeur. For instance, if they
become bored in their professional life, they may imagine they’re
going to write a best-selling book and appear on all the talk shows.
It doesn’t matter if the fantasy is unrealistic; it’s pleasant and
becomes satisfying in its own right. Unfortunately, such fantasies
take the “edge” off, giving Aquarius North Nodes a certain level of
satisfaction that blocks creative action.
The irony is that these folks have all the creative power they need
to make their fantasies come true—but their motive determines the
outcome. In the example, if the motive for writing the book is fame
and glory, success will elude them because, in this incarnation, it’s
set up for the ego to defeat them whenever they try to feed it.
However, if the motive is to help other people, there’s no limit to
the heights they can attain! The humanitarian side of their nature
must be developed.
Another problem with fantasizing is that it moves reality into the
future, which makes Aquarius North Node people much less
effective in handling the present. For example, if they focus on
fantasies of fame as authors of best-selling books, they may pass up
opportunities to write articles for a local magazine. They miss the
stepping-stones that would lead to their dreams actually coming
true.
The same tendency undermines their relationships. If they are
romantically attracted to someone, they begin fantasizing and make
the person the ideal future mate of their fantasy. They begin living
so much in the future that they start relating to their partner as that
ideal person and miss the steps in the present that could, over time,
bring about what they want. Thus, their challenge is to stop
fantasizing and, instead, respond to the opportunities unfolding in
the here and now. When there is not a fantasy attached to their
present circumstances, they always know what to do to succeed.
Luckily Aquarius North Node people have plenty of will and mental
discipline, because it takes every ounce of both to keep their minds
from wandering into the dimension of fantasy and delusions of
grandeur that block action in the here and now.
To ensure success, these folks always have to be aware of their
intent. When they allow the motive of self-aggrandizement to take
the upper hand, it immediately drains the energy they need to
succeed. For example, if they want to help people by starting a
meditation group, they need to stay focused on their altruistic
motives. In this way they will have the energy, clarity, and joy
required to manifest the idea. The way to make their dreams happen
will occur to them as they move ahead, and doors will magically
open to make the path easier.
However, sometimes they allow themselves to think of personal
gain or loss: “Gosh, maybe I’ll become a guru and people will begin
following me,” or “I wonder what my professional peers will think
if they find out I’m into meditation.” Either way, as soon as they
allow themselves to think of personal gain or loss, all the energy for
accomplishment begins to dissipate and they end up doing nothing.
Also, involvement with ego interferes with their vision to such an
extent that they may overlook what people actually need from them.
This limits their success. But when their conscious motive is 100
percent altruistic, they will tune in to the specific help needed on the
planet at a given time in a given situation. Once they truly see an
existing need and respond to it from a place of nonego, they reap
success and fame.
These folks are better off when they choose a more humble
path, walking away from the spotlight and acclaim. They
instinctively seek credit and fame; but when they get it, it inflates
their ego and they lose their sense of graciousness and equality.
When Aquarius North Node people adopt an attitude of humility,
their lives become magical and everything works to their advantage.
They finally see clear, practical outlets for their gifts. But if they
maintain a prideful position, their talents may not find expression so
easily.
For example, I had a client with this nodal position who wrote a
book containing many New Age ideas. Right away she swelled with
pride, considering which major publisher she wanted to handle her
book. It didn’t occur to her that because she had no pre-established
reputation in the field, she might also want to approach a smaller
publishing house. The large publishing houses turned her down, she
turned up her nose at starting smaller, and she ultimately abandoned
the project. Everyone lost, including the people who would have
benefited from her ideas if she had been willing to begin more
modestly.
Arrogance can also be a problem when the universe sends others
to help bring Aquarius North Nodes’ ideas to completion. Often
these natives don’t want to share the credit or the money, and they
don’t want to lose control. They fear that if they work with others
they may have to give up some of what they want. “Their way” and
“their ideas” become paramount; they become less interested in
solutions that will actually help other people—the humanitarian
attitude they need to develop in this lifetime.
An example is my client whose husband, a North Node in
Aquarius, was a therapist. He was writing an advice column to
teenagers and showed his wife a response he was writing to a girl.
The wife (my client) disagreed with his approach, and in this case
her ideas were actually much better. Her husband was missing
something, and he felt it too, yet he went ahead with his own ideas
and never again showed her any other responses. If he had the
humility to put the goal of helping first—regardless of whose idea it
was—he would have been objective and open to her input.
These folks have their own vision and know exactly how they
want it to turn out. They want to do it their way. However, if two
people come together with a shared altruistic ideal or vision, that
will become more important than either one’s idea of how to get
there. This is what actually happens when Aquarius North Node
people are humble enough to work with others.
In this incarnation, Aquarius North Node people need to make a
choice: personal, ego-centered life versus impersonal dedication to
humanity. When they choose to focus on personal life, they lose;
when they choose impersonal dedication to humanitarian causes,
they win—and the personal life they always longed for is magically
added!
To fulfill their need for appreciation, they need to get past the
limitations of personal ego and give back to humankind as a whole
—to find some humanitarian service or cause they can support.
Dedicating their lives to something bigger than ego gives them a
purity of purpose that enables them to invest themselves without
taking the results personally. In fact, altruism helps them develop
their tremendous capacity for self-confidence.
Otherwise there are times when they don’t trust their motives.
Especially during their youth, these folks may wonder if anyone
really does things from pure altruism. But if their conscious
intention is to help, their concentration will automatically be on the
alert for whatever will work to get people what they need.
Aquarius North Nodes have such a generous nature that they
often are devastated when others do not accept their gifts or respond
with applause. They can prevent this problem by actively seeking
information about what others want and need, and what they are
doing that is keeping them from getting the response they want.
These folks may have a tough time hearing feedback in a
constructive way, but they are learning to see the larger view.
For example, if they write children’s stories, they first find out
which publishers are interested in that kind of story. If they receive
a rejection slip, they should find out what the publisher needs and
then tailor their creative product to fit, or write another story that
better meets the publisher’s needs.
Moreover, they are recognizing that they can’t take credit for
their ideas anyway, because none of them are truly “theirs”! New
Age, innovative ideas are floating in the air, and Aquarius North
Nodes’ gift is that their “antennae” are tuned to the right frequency
to pick them up. Recognizing this can release their fears of both
success and failure, because their ideas really have nothing to do
with them personally. Their job is simply to “pick up” the ideas and
transmit them to others.
These folks have access to knowledge that helps free people.
Thus, when their intention is to empower others, the motive is so
clear that the necessary ideas just “come through”—intuitively, or
from other people. The only way they can know which information
is truly helpful in a particular situation is by paying attention to
others’ responses. Ideas that are useful will be well received. If
Aquarius North Nodes share knowledge with others that is not
accepted, it simply means they need to proceed to the next idea and
see if that one is useful. Others will pull the knowledge they need
from these folks—it’s a very impersonal thing.
For example, if Aquarius North Node writes a book on
philosophy and the publishers turn it down, perhaps that philosophy
is not the vehicle people need in order to hear the message.
However, if he presents the same message in a novel, perhaps there
will be an instant demand. Aquarius North Node can tell by others’
response which format is correct.
If Aquarius North Node people believe that by putting effort into
helping their fellow beings something positive will come back to
them, then they have endless energy to keep trying until they
discover which of their talents others respond to in a positive way.
Life is like a boomerang: When they use their creative energy to
help others, whatever they need comes back to help them. There is
great power for these folks in altruism. When the ego is not
involved and they are not personally invested in the results, it’s easy
for them to become creatively involved. Self-gain will be a natural
byproduct. The universe keeps filling them up because they’re
passing on the benefits of their creative energy to others.
Aquarius North Node people need impersonal feedback to gain
perspective, because they are so identified with themselves that they
can’t see themselves clearly. Input from someone they trust can be
helpful—they want to see the larger view so they can cooperate and
get what they desire! For example, in a romantic relationship they
are usually blissfully ignorant of what is going on. Then, because of
factors in the larger picture that they didn’t see, they get hurt. To
avoid emotional pain, they need an objective guidance system for
their personal life.
These folks need to modify the ego and bring themselves into
alignment with the Flow. The Esoteric Sciences (Astrology,
Numerology, Tarot, Handwriting Analysis, etc.) can provide the
objectivity to restrategize. These resources increase Aquarius North
Nodes’ powers of correct observation and modify their tendency to
automatically react to situations in an ego-centered way. The I
Ching is an excellent tool for this; it gives the “inside scoop” on
what is troubling them, and it empowers them to come into
alignment with what is actually happening.
Astrology is also an excellent tool for fostering objectivity: It
allows them to see themselves and others impartially, releasing
them from the frustration of trying to evoke things in the other
person that are not there, and providing otherwise hidden
knowledge of who they really are. It helps them lovingly accept
themselves and others, and value others’ individuality.
Aquarius North Node people are very talented in these sciences
and could easily enter one of these fields professionally. They have
an ability to “read the map” of the astrology chart, or the Tarot—
any divination base that is an objective “launching pad” from which
to direct their antennae toward the innovative knowledge that can
help free themselves and others.
Another resource is their friends. They have great friendship
karma. Honest feedback from friends can help them understand
where ego is blocking their happiness. Gaining knowledge is their
key to freedom, showing them how to avoid defeating patterns of
ego expression. In this way, they gain a measure of control over
their destiny.
When they step back and deliberately look at situations from the
other person’s perspective (what the other person wants and needs),
then they can make choices in alignment with what will work for
everyone—including themselves—in each situation. But ultimately,
to gain the full measure of freedom and love they so fervently seek
requires these folks to not only objectively view others but also
objectively view themselves. They need to watch themselves
brushing their teeth, walking down the street, interacting with
others, and so on. As they begin to observe themselves in action,
watching without judging, they gain the perspective to authentically
be themselves without fear.
Aquarius North Node people are learning to recognize that if
they can’t make progress on a current project, the universe is trying
to send them in a different direction. They should allow the flow of
natural events to show them where to put their time and energy,
rather than trying to dictate those decisions from their own point of
view. If something doesn’t turn out the way they want it, perhaps
the outcome is destined to be something they aren’t yet aware of.
They can free themselves of the negative and obsessive energy
of: “I’m not getting my way; it’s not turning out the way I
envisioned” by allowing themselves to be distracted in a direction
where they can constructively express their creative energies. They
need to notice where the universe has opened the doors and be
willing to walk through!
Rather than putting out so much personal effort, they need to
relax and remain open to the Flow—then they will travel with true
power behind them. For example, even though it’s the job of
Aquarius North Node to bring in the New Age, if they don’t allow
the Angels to help them, they will become too attached to their own
personal effort and won’t have the power they need to accomplish
this goal. If they rest in the Flow, they will find themselves using
minimal effort to accomplish maximum results.
These folks sometimes inadvertently defeat their own happiness
through simple misunderstanding. In past lives, others gave them
what they wanted and they were happy. But in this lifetime, when
others give them what they want, they don’t feel as happy as they
thought they would. This is because being so attached to a specific
idea of what they need to be happy limits the bounty they can
attract. In this lifetime their job is simply to be receptive, to see
what life brings; they will discover that this will actually make them
happy.
Aquarius North Node people are learning to release their
expectations of what they think will bring them happiness and
believe that life wants them to be happy. Then they can just accept
the next thing along the road that brings them a feeling of joy. When
they fight for something, they generally don’t get it simply because
the intensity of trying to grab it pushes it further away. In this
lifetime they are learning to receive love. If they push with their will
and get it, generally they aren’t happy with it. They are learning that
if life brings it to them, it is right for them at that time and they can
enjoy it. Their greatest pleasure comes from experiencing with awe
and gratitude the bounty of the Flow.
Many of their expectations come from the fact that they have
already played out a situation in their head and given everyone their
proper lines—so when they are actually with those people, they
subconsciously force them into the role of their fantasy. This leads
to two problems. First, when the other person doesn’t go along with
the script, Aquarius North Node is confused and angry; her
expectations are disappointed. Second, when she’s focused on the
“script” she can’t see what is happening in the present, so she loses
touch with her ability to change the situation to her advantage.
Aquarius North Node people are learning that when they try to
remind everyone else of their lines and expected behavior, they
forget to play their own authentic part. They need to stand back and
observe others objectively. Over time, the other person’s qualities
will become clear. The native won’t be disappointed because she is
simply observing who the other person is without any expectations.
Then she can tune in to how the other person’s behavior affects her.
Rather than trying to change people, she can decide who she feels
good spending time with.
A further advantage of this approach is that by allowing the other
person to be himself, it gives Aquarius North Node space to be
herself as well. Then, keeping her goal in mind, she can
spontaneously express her reactions in ways that are appropriate to
the situation as it unfolds.
When Aquarius North Node people become indignant that
others are getting something they are not getting, they may indulge
in an overly dramatic reaction that alienates those around them and
undermines their own position. This can be anything from a careless
“attitude” on their part to a serious misunderstanding that eventually
results in disaster. These folks are often too quick to resist the wills
of others. When someone else asserts his or her will, these natives
tend to automatically respond with resistance. It’s like a reflex.
Even if the other person’s action or comment is based on wisdom,
the natives’ reaction will still be to try and get their way, which will
be exactly the opposite of what the other person wants. This can
cause others to lose interest in them.
When these folks use willfulness to achieve their goals, without
considering the people involved, they alienate others. They tend to
move too quickly; they see the goal and want to get there
immediately. This short-circuits the entire process of cooperative
partnership—for others as well as for themselves—and no one wins.
Often the process is filled with a series of false starts and confusion
—all because Aquarius North Nodes did not wait for the logical,
successful pathway to reveal itself. They are learning to stand back
and watch the situation: to observe what is occurring instead of
always being so intensely involved. Then they will find themselves
less threatened by others’ assertiveness and less reactive in ways
they later regret.
Aquarius North Node people can be so willful, and so intent on
what they want, that they sometimes blatantly disregard whether or
not something is fair for the other people involved. When they get a
little “puffed up” with their own importance, it can lead to
carelessness in their relationships with others. Although other
people have helped them reach success, they may think they should
have the lion’s share of the rewards and forget to consider what is
fair. When others become aware of their lack of concern, they may
question these folks’ good intentions and whether they can be
trusted with leadership. Others become uneasy about how far
Aquarius North Nodes would go to get their way. They need to let
others see how they (the others) are also going to win, and then
those people will be more supportive of the natives’ plans.
These people are learning a very important lesson: Life has to be
a win win situation! Others won’t want to play unless their own
needs will be met. If Aquarius North Node people consider what is
fair for others, it will help them relax about getting their way and
create situations that are in everyone’s best interests. Then others
will welcome their enthusiastic participation. Also, they will gain a
clearer perspective of the motives of the people around them. They
may find that a person they have seen as an enemy is actually
someone who truly wants to support them. By deliberately
cultivating a humanitarian attitude and staying aware of the larger
picture, their innate generosity is freed and their energy infuses a
group bonding that empowers everyone.